We’re the first DAILY online advice column for both the terminally ill, and their friends and relatives. Every weekday your questions about dying — how it affects you, how to deal with it — will be answered.
You do NOT have to give your real name. You will have complete confidentiality. To ask any question about [...]
Dear Judy,
4 years ago my husband died in a car crash, head-on. We have 2 children, and at the time of my husband’s death they were 5 and 2.
My in-laws have been terrific. Very supportive, kind, and generous, and I really appreciated that, and still do. They still babysit whenever I have class (I am [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister died last year of ovarian cancer. Practically a year to the day her husband, whom I’ve always liked and thought the world of, married a new wife.
I did some mental calculations and figured out they must have been “dating” while my sister was sick with cancer. Because there have been references from [...]
Dear Judy,
I am newly married and have a 15-year-old stepdaughter. Her biological father is dying of lung and colon cancer.
I want to comfort both my stepdaughter and my wife. My stepdaughter feels her father no longer cares about her, and about a year ago told her Mom, “I wish he would die.” Then 2 weeks [...]
Dear Judy,
I am 31. My mother died 4 years ago at age 60, and it came as a surprise even though she’d had health problems including breast cancer. We thought that was over. It wasn’t.
A year ago, just 3 years after my mother’s death, my father remarried, and I am really upset. Not because he [...]
Dear Judy,
My friend is dying of esophogeal cancer. I visit, call on the phone, bring food to her spouse.
I feel guilty because I feel like I should go see her more often (she lives an hour away). I am going tomorrow.
I truly don’t know what to say any more. She can barely talk. She is [...]
Dear Judy,
My 82-year-old mother has COPD, stage 3 kidney disease, and a 50 percent blockage of her coronary arteries. She is in her right mind.
5 years ago she signed a medical power of attorney, naming me as her health agent. Around the same time, she signed a living will, asking that all artificial nourishment be [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009