We’re the first DAILY online advice column for both the terminally ill, and their friends and relatives. Every weekday your questions about dying — how it affects you, how to deal with it — will be answered.
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Dear Judy,
Our mother has Alzheimer’s and it’s pretty advanced. My older brother, who is 37 and never has done a day’s work in his life and never has spent much time with the rest of us, suddenly discovered in the last months how much he loves our mother and needs to be around her.
He even [...]
Dear Judy,
I feel so terrible, I don’t know where to turn. My friend of 10 years (we live together) has Stage III prostate cancer, which has spread. I know he will die. But I also know I wish he would die now.
Obviously, I’ve never shared any of this with him or anyone. It makes me [...]
Dear Judy,
4 years ago my husband died in a car crash, head-on. We have 2 children, and at the time of my husband’s death they were 5 and 2.
My in-laws have been terrific. Very supportive, kind, and generous, and I really appreciated that, and still do. They still babysit whenever I have class (I am [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister died last year of ovarian cancer. Practically a year to the day her husband, whom I’ve always liked and thought the world of, married a new wife.
I did some mental calculations and figured out they must have been “dating” while my sister was sick with cancer. Because there have been references from [...]
Dear Judy,
I am newly married and have a 15-year-old stepdaughter. Her biological father is dying of lung and colon cancer.
I want to comfort both my stepdaughter and my wife. My stepdaughter feels her father no longer cares about her, and about a year ago told her Mom, “I wish he would die.” Then 2 weeks [...]
Dear Judy,
I am 31. My mother died 4 years ago at age 60, and it came as a surprise even though she’d had health problems including breast cancer. We thought that was over. It wasn’t.
A year ago, just 3 years after my mother’s death, my father remarried, and I am really upset. Not because he [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009