http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 09:49:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-142 Sauli Fri, 17 Oct 2008 11:59:00 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/#comment-142 It is not clear if Irene's friend works or attends church. If the latter, it may be an optikon to talk to her rabbi, pastor, or imam and seee if they can help. If the former, and Irene knows the people with whom her friend is close to at work, then this might be worth exploring. But Irene shouldn't give up looking for a way to reach her friend, even if it isn't her doing so directly Sauli It is not clear if Irene’s friend works or attends church. If the latter, it may be an optikon to talk to her rabbi, pastor, or imam and seee if they can help. If the former, and Irene knows the people with whom her friend is close to at work, then this might be worth exploring.
But Irene shouldn’t give up looking for a way to reach her friend, even if it isn’t her doing so directly
Sauli

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-141 Gene Fri, 17 Oct 2008 10:26:15 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/#comment-141 I find yoour comments about the husband quite offensive. How can you be so judgmental about a guy who lost his stepchild and is living with a grieving mother? I find yoour comments about the husband quite offensive. How can you be so judgmental about a guy who lost his stepchild and is living with a grieving mother?

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-140 Hazel Fri, 17 Oct 2008 10:24:24 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/#comment-140 Tragically, your friend will never recover. The effect of such a loss is not only physical but also emotional. She may find it easier to socialize with people who have been through the same trauma and understand the toll it takes. It will be painful for you, and for her, but that is life. I have been there, and I picked up the pieces with people who viewed my backaches and migranes as the norm. Tragically, your friend will never recover. The effect of such a loss is not only physical but also emotional. She may find it easier to socialize with people who have been through the same trauma and understand the toll it takes. It will be painful for you, and for her, but that is life. I have been there, and I picked up the pieces with people who viewed my backaches and migranes as the norm.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-139 Janine C., Miami Fri, 17 Oct 2008 09:55:36 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/a-childs-death-from-leukemia-is-killing-my-friend/#comment-139 You should wait, as Judy suggests, but not too long. If after a year things are still the same, you may want to write her a letter, saying that you are doing this because you love her, and then tell her how concerned you are and why. She sounds like she is deteriorating, it could be a bottomless pit, and probably needs a jolt, the proverbial slap in the face, to help her snap out. You should wait, as Judy suggests, but not too long. If after a year things are still the same, you may want to write her a letter, saying that you are doing this because you love her, and then tell her how concerned you are and why. She sounds like she is deteriorating, it could be a bottomless pit, and probably needs a jolt, the proverbial slap in the face, to help her snap out.

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