Comments on: After-Death Social Life

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:52:29 +0000

At this point Becky needs to find a way to spend her time doing something that will distract her, or at least make her feel better. Yes, it is nice of her husband’s colleagues to inviter her to these events. However, Becky is suffering from an enormous loss. She should not be made to feel guilty if she decides to skip out on some of these gatherings. LIke Candee says, she should try to make new connections with new people. If these colleagues are truly friends, they will be empathetic understanding of Becky’s feelings.

By: Candee

Candee — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 07:38:12 +0000

In my experience, and the experiences of my clients, office events are imbued with the aura of the dead man, which attach themselves to all those present. Becky will never overcome his loss if she subjects herself to the presence of that overpowering aura, which ties her to the past. She should concentrate on establishing new connections with new people unpolluted by past associations and contacts with the dead.

By: Rosalee

Rosalee — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 07:32:53 +0000

Judy, you are so right. If Becky refuses these invitations, soon enough they will stop coming. She should at least go to these events briefly, to indicate to her husband’s colleagues that she appreciates their efforts to include her.

By: Virginia

Virginia — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 07:29:13 +0000

Becky is being plain silly. She says she is all alone, ignoring the fact that people are actively trying to help her out of her loneliness. If she continues with her negative approach, soon enough she will find herself truly all alone.