Comments on: After Tongue Cancer — Do I Make My Nieces Rich? http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 09:52:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Judy http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/comment-page-1/#comment-175 Judy Sat, 29 Nov 2008 15:50:58 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/#comment-175 Dear Jeanne I think your advice, through difficult experience, is better and wiser than anything I offered. Take care -- and write again soon. Your wisdom is appreciated Judy Dear Jeanne
I think your advice, through difficult experience, is better and wiser than anything I offered.
Take care — and write again soon. Your wisdom is appreciated
Judy

]]> By: Jeanne http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/comment-page-1/#comment-174 Jeanne Sat, 29 Nov 2008 15:27:01 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/#comment-174 Dear Theresa, I too have tongue cancer. I had half my tongue removed along with a neck dissection, forearm flap procedure and 33 radiation treatments. My cancer was caused by the radiation I received when I had Hodgkin's Disease when I was 21 years old. In 2 weeks I will turn 45. I am married and have 2 children. My son is 26 and is married. They have a beautiful daughter, Reese, born this past October. My daughter is 19 and in her second year of college. She is pre-med. I have had cancer twice. The odds of me surviving the next 2 years are against me. In the past 6 months there have been close friends and family that I always thought would be there for me that have backed away. And there have been many that I previously thought were "flaky" and "distant" that have stepped up to help along this difficult road. I have come to realize that everyone deals with losing a loved one differently. Some can deal with it and help out and others cannot. Does that make the people that cannot bad people? Maybe, maybe not. Does it make them care less? I don't think so. My heart goes out to you - as I understand the speach problems and difficulties you are facing. All I can offer as advice is go with your heart - you more than anyone knows what the right choice is. If anything, leave some of your wealth to each -- and of course some to a worthy charity. Just remember that your wealth is not about money. There is more to you than that which means you have more to offer your nieces than money. Dear Theresa,

I too have tongue cancer. I had half my tongue removed along with a neck dissection, forearm flap procedure and 33 radiation treatments. My cancer was caused by the radiation I received when I had Hodgkin’s Disease when I was 21 years old. In 2 weeks I will turn 45. I am married and have 2 children. My son is 26 and is married. They have a beautiful daughter, Reese, born this past October. My daughter is 19 and in her second year of college. She is pre-med. I have had cancer twice. The odds of me surviving the next 2 years are against me. In the past 6 months there have been close friends and family that I always thought would be there for me that have backed away. And there have been many that I previously thought were “flaky” and “distant” that have stepped up to help along this difficult road. I have come to realize that everyone deals with losing a loved one differently. Some can deal with it and help out and others cannot. Does that make the people that cannot bad people? Maybe, maybe not. Does it make them care less? I don’t think so. My heart goes out to you - as I understand the speach problems and difficulties you are facing. All I can offer as advice is go with your heart - you more than anyone knows what the right choice is. If anything, leave some of your wealth to each — and of course some to a worthy charity.

Just remember that your wealth is not about money. There is more to you than that which means you have more to offer your nieces than money.

]]> By: Tilly http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/comment-page-1/#comment-173 Tilly Wed, 29 Oct 2008 11:21:16 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/#comment-173 Let me get this clear, Judy. You mean the nieces who ignored her should get something? Why, why, why??? They failed the test. And failed miserably. Why reward them? Let me get this clear, Judy. You mean the nieces who ignored her should get something? Why, why, why??? They failed the test. And failed miserably. Why reward them?

]]> By: Ezekiah http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/comment-page-1/#comment-172 Ezekiah Wed, 29 Oct 2008 11:18:24 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/#comment-172 Surely you and your husband could not have been totally wrong in your judgments? Maybe there was some misunderstanding, exacerbated by your flawed speech? It would be awful to live with this perpetual disappointment for your remaining years. Speak to them and clear it up. Surely you and your husband could not have been totally wrong in your judgments? Maybe there was some misunderstanding, exacerbated by your flawed speech? It would be awful to live with this perpetual disappointment for your remaining years. Speak to them and clear it up.

]]> By: Lydia http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/comment-page-1/#comment-170 Lydia Wed, 29 Oct 2008 11:07:49 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/#comment-170 If you can afford it, reward the niece who was kind to you, and divide the whole thing equally. You just never know what fate has in store for anyone. You want them all to get the message. Right? Better now than later!!!! If you can afford it, reward the niece who was kind to you, and divide the whole thing equally. You just never know what fate has in store for anyone. You want them all to get the message. Right? Better now than later!!!!

]]> By: Rachelle http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Rachelle Wed, 29 Oct 2008 11:05:36 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/after-tongue-cancer-do-i-make-my-nieces-rich/#comment-171 A will should take into account what the terms will do to the beneficiaries and also to those left out. If the three nice nieces know they were once in the will they'll certainly accuse her of being nice to you for purely monetary reasons, and may never talk to her again. Is this what you want? A will should take into account what the terms will do to the beneficiaries and also to those left out. If the three nice nieces know they were once in the will they’ll certainly accuse her of being nice to you for purely monetary reasons, and may never talk to her again. Is this what you want?

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