Comments on: Alzheimer’s: Am I A Bad Son? Or A Bad Brother?

By: Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN

Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:16:51 +0000

Judy, Love your advice on this one. I would add one thing. It would not hurt for this brother to come out of pocket for some well deserved respite care for his sister and her family. As they live in Florida a fun “Disney” break may be in order. Go for a visit and present some tickets. Or…allow this sister to have a “spa” day. Something that shows you get it!! Whew! Don’t make me come down there!

By: Charlene

Charlene — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 13:59:31 +0000

Fred, I think if you would display a little sympathy for your sister’s situation, and show that you appreicate her efforts, she would be less resentful. You might send her a cook to fill her freezer once a month. Or treat her and her husband to a nice weekend trip when you are in Florida. Try it.

By: Tim

Tim — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 13:55:05 +0000

If my sibling had that kind of superior condescending attitude, I’d refuse all help!

By: Wilma

Wilma — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 13:54:02 +0000

I am really reluctant to say this, as some of my best friends are lawyers, but Fred epitomizes all their worst qualities. He’s a walking stereotyp. So what if his mother doesn’t recognize him? Does he have any idea about the huge amount of work and effort involved in this? I somehow don’t think so….

By: Helene

Helene — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 13:49:27 +0000

You poor thing! Such a demanding job! While all your sister does is deal with an out-of-work husband, teenagers, and everything else. Isn’t she lucky to have so much time on her hands? Shame on you!

By: Crissy

Crissy — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 12:54:17 +0000

Anyone who starts by saying that he can go to Floriday only twice a year is not seeking advice — just looking for some kind of approval of his own selfishness.