Comments on: Can I Ignore My Father’s Last Wishes?

By: Judy

Judy — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:45:05 +0000

Wow Gracie - I’m impressed. Your answer was far better than mine, and more thoughtful.
Welcome to thecheckoutline.org, and keep on sending your wise comments!

By: Gracie

Gracie — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:23:29 +0000

I’m brand new to this site, so I didn’t realize you got these kinds of questions. OK. This is how I read the situation. Rick is the kind of person who has no sympathy for a first cousin who apprently has not had an easy life. Meaning: in Rick’s opinion he’s selfish and self centered. BUT Rick’s father has entrusted him with giving money to the cousin, and I think maybe this is his way of using his own death to teach his son something he knows, but which never entirely sank in. How to give, how to care.

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:18:08 +0000

I wonder if the father means for Rick to give the money to his cousin incrementally, maybe depending on whether or not the cousin gets his act together?

By: Josie S

Josie S — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:16:39 +0000

Unless the father is incapable of commnicating details, I think Rick should ask him directly how much money he wants to go to the deadbeat cousin. Why should Rick be the one to decide how much is too much, or too little? That’s his father’s prerogative. At least this way Rick will know what to do and how much to give.