http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/deal-or-no-deal-my-late-boyfriends-parents/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 10:29:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/deal-or-no-deal-my-late-boyfriends-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-16725 Candee Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:56:37 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=905#comment-16725 Gill comes closest to understanding the situation, but misses the main dimension, At the moment of his death, while the boyfriend's life flashed before him (it does, trust me on this one), he understood the full consequnences of how he had lived his life. His profound regret radiated to those who were willing to accept it, meaning his parents but not his angry girlfriend. They are probably not aware of it, but in approaching Pat and.her son, they are complying with his dying wish. And Gill, I think you may be displaying the begining of a psychic gift. Refine it! Gill comes closest to understanding the situation, but misses the main dimension, At the moment of his death, while the boyfriend’s life flashed before him (it does, trust me on this one), he understood the full consequnences of how he had lived his life. His profound regret radiated to those who were willing to accept it, meaning his parents but not his angry girlfriend. They are probably not aware of it, but in approaching Pat and.her son, they are complying with his dying wish. And Gill, I think you may be displaying the begining of a psychic gift. Refine it!

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/deal-or-no-deal-my-late-boyfriends-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-16642 Gill Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:46:38 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=905#comment-16642 Maybe they feel guilty about how miserable his son made you and how he died, leaving an orphan, and want to make amends. Having caring grandparents could be one of the best things that happened to the child, and to his mother. Maybe they feel guilty about how miserable his son made you and how he died, leaving an orphan, and want to make amends. Having caring grandparents could be one of the best things that happened to the child, and to his mother.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/deal-or-no-deal-my-late-boyfriends-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-16641 Pat Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:44:26 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=905#comment-16641 Pam, I am so sorry about your situation. But as you state, you are sort of relieved to have your boyfriend out of your life, meaning you have an opportunity for a fresh start. May I suggest that you should now try to avoid superficial analyses like 'part of what made him drunk and abusive was his parents'? How do you know? Maybe it was you? I am not saying it was, I am simply saying that life is complicated. Simplistic and superficial slogans are not the way to go about coping. Pam, I am so sorry about your situation. But as you state, you are sort of relieved to have your boyfriend out of your life, meaning you have an opportunity for a fresh start. May I suggest that you should now try to avoid superficial analyses like ‘part of what made him drunk and abusive was his parents’? How do you know? Maybe it was you? I am not saying it was, I am simply saying that life is complicated. Simplistic and superficial slogans are not the way to go about coping.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/deal-or-no-deal-my-late-boyfriends-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-16640 Charles Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:38:32 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=905#comment-16640 Judy, your advice makes a lot of sense but don't you think Pam should consult with a lawyer? Judy, your advice makes a lot of sense but don’t you think Pam should consult with a lawyer?

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