Comments on: Disco Death http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/disco-death/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 10:33:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: jo http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/disco-death/comment-page-1/#comment-53 jo Thu, 11 Sep 2008 11:24:21 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/disco-death/#comment-53 Seeing as your husband is so organised, why doesn't he write a letter explaining what he has asked you to do. He can prepare it now -- along with the mailing list of those he wishes to tell - and the two of you can decide together when to send it. Either now, in other words, when he still has a few weeks left, or after he goes. Receiving such a letter will be a lot less weird for the recipients than being told not to come to a funeral -- and then getting an invite to a booze party. And at least the responsibility will be placed on him, not you. Seeing as your husband is so organised, why doesn’t he write a letter explaining what he has asked you to do. He can prepare it now — along with the mailing list of those he wishes to tell - and the two of you can decide together when to send it. Either now, in other words, when he still has a few weeks left, or after he goes. Receiving such a letter will be a lot less weird for the recipients than being told not to come to a funeral — and then getting an invite to a booze party. And at least the responsibility will be placed on him, not you.

]]> By: Raphael http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/disco-death/comment-page-1/#comment-52 Raphael Wed, 10 Sep 2008 20:32:13 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/disco-death/#comment-52 Judy has it right. You have to respect your husband's wish to have his life celebrated rather than mourned. But it always helps when you have the help of the man who the event is for to get things in order. Judy has it right. You have to respect your husband’s wish to have his life celebrated rather than mourned. But it always helps when you have the help of the man who the event is for to get things in order.

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