http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/do-gooders-driving-us-nuts/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 10:35:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/do-gooders-driving-us-nuts/comment-page-1/#comment-88 Ulla in Stockholm Mon, 29 Sep 2008 10:04:51 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/do-gooders-driving-us-nuts/#comment-88 Do we share friends? I was in exactly the same situation! I would NEVER do what Judy suggests. Try her line of approach, and you're going to get MORE stupid suggestions for miracle cures for Alzheimers, an you'll have to invent more stupid ways to cut the conversation short. In my experience the response which worked best was to thank them very much for their care and concern and say that you have implicit trust in the doctor and have made a decision to follow his directions precisely.You can add (and who will knw you're lying?) that when your mother was still well, she told you not to trust anyone but her doctor. This will stop further dumb remarks or unsolicited advice. Do we share friends? I was in exactly the same situation! I would NEVER do what Judy suggests. Try her line of approach, and you’re going to get MORE stupid suggestions for miracle cures for Alzheimers, an you’ll have to invent more stupid ways to cut the conversation short. In my experience the response which worked best was to thank them very much for their care and concern and say that you have implicit trust in the doctor and have made a decision to follow his directions precisely.You can add (and who will knw you’re lying?) that when your mother was still well, she told you not to trust anyone but her doctor. This will stop further dumb remarks or unsolicited advice.

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