http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/do-i-have-to-abide-by-my-mothers-wishes/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 10:41:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/do-i-have-to-abide-by-my-mothers-wishes/comment-page-1/#comment-3199 Malvina Tue, 07 Apr 2009 17:53:24 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=571#comment-3199 Jason makes an interesting point. Evelyn's mother probably knew that the relationship with her daughter was problematic but didn't know how to fix it. Asking her to deliver the eulogy was a a kind of message she sent her, while she was still alive, that she cares deeply for her, and hopes that the daughter will find it in her to forgive. Jason makes an interesting point. Evelyn’s mother probably knew that the relationship with her daughter was problematic but didn’t know how to fix it. Asking her to deliver the eulogy was a a kind of message she sent her, while she was still alive, that she cares deeply for her, and hopes that the daughter will find it in her to forgive.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/do-i-have-to-abide-by-my-mothers-wishes/comment-page-1/#comment-3176 Cathy C Tue, 07 Apr 2009 12:57:14 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=571#comment-3176 I'm not so sure Judy is right. If say her family knows that the deceased asked her daughter to give the eulogy -- and then and she stays quiet throughout the funeral -- they'll wonder what's going on. Evelyn can say stuff like: "Mom was a strong presence in my life." True enough, right? , Or: "She set very high standards for us all." Not hypocritical, not a lie. I've been there, and done that. It works. I’m not so sure Judy is right. If say her family knows that the deceased asked her daughter to give the eulogy — and then and she stays quiet throughout the funeral — they’ll wonder what’s going on. Evelyn can say stuff like: “Mom was a strong presence in my life.” True enough, right? , Or: “She set very high standards for us all.” Not hypocritical, not a lie. I’ve been there, and done that. It works.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/do-i-have-to-abide-by-my-mothers-wishes/comment-page-1/#comment-3175 Jason Tue, 07 Apr 2009 12:49:52 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=571#comment-3175 Weird question. If Evelyn's mother never loved her but loved her 2 brothers, then why did she ask Evelyn, of all her kids, to give the eulogy?? Maybe Evelyn has it all wrong. And her mother did love her.... Something to ponder. Weird question. If Evelyn’s mother never loved her but loved her 2 brothers, then why did she ask Evelyn, of all her kids, to give the eulogy?? Maybe Evelyn has it all wrong. And her mother did love her…. Something to ponder.

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