Comments on: Do I Have To Honor Their Wishes?

By: Gene

Gene — Thu, 28 May 2009 07:41:22 +0000

In these times, the decent thing for mourners to do is to make it clear that nothing more than a condolence note is required. If people want to give charity they do it anyway, and flowers are the biggest waste of money imaginable.

By: Becky

Becky — Thu, 28 May 2009 07:38:13 +0000

In our family, when someone dies we ask people to give money to a charity of their choice (but obviously we give them a list: we want to make sure it’s a charity we approve!!) We get thank you letters when we do this. Of the dozens of contributions over the years, only one was problematic — someone gave money to the PETA, which is an organizatiion we don’t support.

By: Linda, Oregon

Linda, Oregon — Thu, 28 May 2009 07:18:31 +0000

Judy, this question just proves that you are right when you say people should prepare everything ahead, and inform close friends and relatives ahead of time. Good work!

By: Clark

Clark — Thu, 28 May 2009 07:16:58 +0000

Give to some charity you know he would have appreciated — and make that known to his relatives - do not allow his family to wreck his memory!

By: Patricia

Patricia — Thu, 28 May 2009 07:14:40 +0000

Somethere here makes zero sense. Maybe Leslie and her husband didn’t really know their friend as well as they thought??? Possible, right? There are other levels to this story, much that does not meet the eye.