Comments on: Dying Mother: Can We Take the Kids?

By: Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN

Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:49:56 +0000

These kids are losing their mother, the father has “checked out” so to speak and they don’t need to lose their home as well. I would agree with Judy. I hope to never lose a child, even a grown one with children of their own. My advice, be it ever so humble: Go (quickly) and be with your daughter and her children. Keep opinions to yourself and be a Mom/ Grandma. Love them up!!! My prayers go to you and those kids….

By: Alice

Alice — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:55:50 +0000

People, am I the only one to see Anna’s point of view? So it seems — from reading the comments posted.Those poor kids have been living for two years under the shadow of a dying, non-functioning mother and a self-centered father. Their grandmother wants to introduce an element of normality into their lives. There is no perfect answer in this situation, but hers is the most reasonable in the circumstances.

By: Eda

Eda — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 07:23:46 +0000

The last thing these kids and their mother need now is a family feud. Cool it.

By: Cory

Cory — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 07:11:25 +0000

Anna, do you really think that if you take these poor kids from home they’ll think everything’s all right? You know that’s not the case! They’ll miss home! They are about to lose their mother, so do you really think they should also lose the security of their familiar environment?

By: Nicolette

Nicolette — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 06:49:20 +0000

At ages 9 and 11, the grandchildren are old enough to understand the facts of life. And death. There’s really no point to protecting them from harsh reality.

By: Anona

Anona — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 06:43:46 +0000

The son-in-law is totally manipulative. If he wants the children home, he should decrease his workload. Instead he increased it and assumes others will fall in line. However, there’s really no choice here but to respect his decision (unfortunately…) and Judy’s advice.