Dear Judy,
I am 31. My mother died 4 years ago at age 60, and it came as a surprise even though she’d had health problems including breast cancer. We thought that was over. It wasn’t.
A year ago, just 3 years after my mother’s death, my father remarried, and I am really upset. Not because he found someone new whom he loves, because that was bound to happen. But because of her. She is very odd and not in my opinion especially nice.
Our mother was outgoing and religious, but not in a stuffy or hypocritical way. She was a kind and thoughtful person and if you met her for one second she’d invite you to dinner.
The woman my father married last year pretends she’s religious, but I know she’s not. I think she joined our temple just to find some single or widowed man. And it bugs me.
Also, she is quiet and not very warm with me, and I’m my father’s only offspring. She acts like I’m the intruder when I share meals with them. And she doesn’t invite a lot of other people to my father’s house either. In other words, she’s just not sociable or outgoing.
My question is: Should I say something about her to my father?
Tanya
Dear Tanya,
No.
Thanks for writing
Judy
