Comments on: His Wife Had Breast Cancer — and Now He’s Acting Crazy http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 11:08:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Gill http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-165 Gill Tue, 28 Oct 2008 12:13:02 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/#comment-165 Just because someone's lost a loved one doesn't mean they're allowed to drive other people crazy. Who hasn't been through a loss? Imagine if we all took the liberties and decided to behave rudely and inconsiderately! If he doesn't comply with your reuest to stop, bombard his mailbox with every bit of trash and spam that comes your way, place him on mailing lists, etc. When he talks to you in person about the stuff, pretend to be busy. Eventually, he will get it. Just because someone’s lost a loved one doesn’t mean they’re allowed to drive other people crazy. Who hasn’t been through a loss? Imagine if we all took the liberties and decided to behave rudely and inconsiderately! If he doesn’t comply with your reuest to stop, bombard his mailbox with every bit of trash and spam that comes your way, place him on mailing lists, etc. When he talks to you in person about the stuff, pretend to be busy. Eventually, he will get it.

]]> By: juan http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-164 juan Tue, 28 Oct 2008 12:09:41 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/#comment-164 Isn't there a sensitive way to tell him that you'd rather not be Emailed or told this stuff? that you like him, enjoy his company but that alerting you to all the dangers out there is having a negative effect on you? Juan Isn’t there a sensitive way to tell him that you’d rather not be Emailed or told this stuff? that you like him, enjoy his company but that alerting you to all the dangers out there is having a negative effect on you?

Juan

]]> By: Alice Kay http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-169 Alice Kay Tue, 28 Oct 2008 11:37:41 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/#comment-169 People in his situation should be forgiven everything for the first year. People in his situation should be forgiven everything for the first year.

]]> By: Matty http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-168 Matty Tue, 28 Oct 2008 11:36:06 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/#comment-168 Isn't there some support group for bereaved spouses he can join? Isn’t there some support group for bereaved spouses he can join?

]]> By: Steve http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-167 Steve Tue, 28 Oct 2008 11:34:20 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/#comment-167 Tell him straight out that you're not interested. You can be polite about it, like you might say that all this information is overwhelming so you've have decided to only listen to your doctor. But be direct and upfront. He needs to understand that he is being a major pain in the ass. If that doesn't work, justl block his emails and refuse to take his calls. That should do it. Tell him straight out that you’re not interested. You can be polite about it, like you might say that all this information is overwhelming so you’ve have decided to only listen to your doctor. But be direct and upfront. He needs to understand that he is being a major pain in the ass. If that doesn’t work, justl block his emails and refuse to take his calls. That should do it.

]]> By: Solly http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-166 Solly Tue, 28 Oct 2008 11:29:54 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/his-wife-had-breast-cancer-and-now-hes-acting-crazy/#comment-166 Rhoda did not mention if this man has children. If childless, he may be plain bored, having lost a wife whose illness kept him busy -- maybe frantically busy all the time. Someone in his circle of friends or family - it could be you - should help him develop a new interest. Rhoda did not mention if this man has children. If childless, he may be plain bored, having lost a wife whose illness kept him busy — maybe frantically busy all the time. Someone in his circle of friends or family - it could be you - should help him develop a new interest.

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