Comments on: How Do I Duck Out of a Funeral Gig Planned by a Friend with Breast Cancer? http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 11:17:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Ossie http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/comment-page-1/#comment-122 Ossie Fri, 10 Oct 2008 13:59:42 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/#comment-122 Geena has it right. Despite her faults you continued the relationship for a long time. You must have had reasons for doing so. So put your grievances aside. In other words, be charitable and make peace with yourself -- and your friend. Ossie Geena has it right. Despite her faults you continued the relationship for a long time. You must have had reasons for doing so. So put your grievances aside. In other words, be charitable and make peace with yourself — and your friend.

Ossie

]]> By: Genna http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/comment-page-1/#comment-121 Genna Fri, 10 Oct 2008 11:41:45 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/#comment-121 Robert, are you kidding? You actually suggest telling a woman who is focusing on her upcoming demise what a rotten friend she has been? What precisely are you trying to achieve? Make her feel worse? She doesn't have enought to worry her? Just let it go and focus on the good things. Robert, are you kidding? You actually suggest telling a woman who is focusing on her upcoming demise what a rotten friend she has been? What precisely are you trying to achieve? Make her feel worse? She doesn’t have enought to worry her? Just let it go and focus on the good things.

]]> By: Robby in Rome http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/comment-page-1/#comment-124 Robby in Rome Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:21:31 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/#comment-124 Just one other thing, if I may: if she feels close enough to ask you to speak about her at her funeral, she might also be grateful if you told her what is bugging you. She is clearly looking for closure, doesn'tt want to leave an angry friend behind. Do it gently, of course, or humorously. If you can. Just one other thing, if I may: if she feels close enough to ask you to speak about her at her funeral, she might also be grateful if you told her what is bugging you. She is clearly looking for closure, doesn’tt want to leave an angry friend behind. Do it gently, of course, or humorously. If you can.

]]> By: Robby in Rome http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/comment-page-1/#comment-123 Robby in Rome Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:18:27 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/#comment-123 Seems to me this woman is totally lacking awareness. Ignore the bad stuff -- it's history -- and pretend it just never happened. Seems to me this woman is totally lacking awareness. Ignore the bad stuff — it’s history — and pretend it just never happened.

]]> By: Genna http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/comment-page-1/#comment-126 Genna Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:14:49 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/#comment-126 Will it kill you to do a sick person the tiny favor of saying a few good things about her when she's dead? I real find your whining pathetic at this late stage. Despite all her shortcomings, you chose to continue eating with her in public places, and go on seeing her. Surely she must have something decent about her -- or you would have terminated this dysfunctional relationship long ago. Can't you find it in you to focus on that? Will it kill you to do a sick person the tiny favor of saying a few good things about her when she’s dead? I real find your whining pathetic at this late stage. Despite all her shortcomings, you chose to continue eating with her in public places, and go on seeing her. Surely she must have something decent about her — or you would have terminated this dysfunctional relationship long ago. Can’t you find it in you to focus on that?

]]> By: Alvin http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/comment-page-1/#comment-125 Alvin Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:10:51 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/how-do-i-duck-out-of-a-funeral-gig/#comment-125 Judy's advice will only work if you are a lousy public speaker. If your so-called friend knows you are not, you can say that you get very emotional in funerals and just can't trust yourself. And if she's heard you perform eloquently at some previous funeral, you can say that you will be very emotional at <em>hers</em>. Which will probably be true, in a weird way.. Judy’s advice will only work if you are a lousy public speaker. If your so-called friend knows you are not, you can say that you get very emotional in funerals and just can’t trust yourself. And if she’s heard you perform eloquently at some previous funeral, you can say that you will be very emotional at hers. Which will probably be true, in a weird way..

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