Comments on: Husband Spooked: How to Find a Hospice?

By: Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN

Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 14:49:40 +0000

Helene, you are so right. It makes me wonder how much of our time we spend “worrying” about things that might occur, rather than enjoying what we have (and what we don’t have, like illness). These kinds of posts bring us back to what is really important. Thank you for sharing

By: Helene Cox

Helene Cox — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 13:21:43 +0000

Thank you, Jeanne Frye, for expressing so well what i meant to say. I almost feel that Lydia’s husband let her down by remaining healthy! Perhaps, like Judy, she should volunteer at a hospice, and so provide an outlet for those feelings of compassion and pity which may have led her to marry her husband in the first place.

By: Mikey

Mikey — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 15:29:46 +0000

Hey Judy, 24 years ago there were roaches in my neighborhood. Should I shop around for an exterminator, just in case they come back anytime in the future? Am I clear, or need I spell it out?

By: Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN

Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:32:00 +0000

Judy, Lydia sounds like she is living (existing really) waiting for the “shoe to drop”. To explain 24 healthy years together with her husband as “long” tells me she is anxious and may actually be so stressed about what might happen that she can not enjoy the present.
So…shop for a hospice and a funeral, if it makes her feel better. But it sounds like a really good counselor may be in order for Lydia so she can de stress herself and learn to enjoy the gift of health she has been given. She needs to learn to it is ok to actually enjoy the present :).

By: Maxine

Maxine — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 10:55:05 +0000

Lydia is one smart lady. Even without her husband’s medical history, she should know about local hospices. We all know exactly what we would do if a million extra dollars suddenly landed in our laps, and what are the chances of that, compared to needing decent medical care at any age?

By: Helene Cox

Helene Cox — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 10:40:19 +0000

We are all going to die one day, but do we go around looking for hospices? Do we check out any other services we may need in the future? The man has been healthy and sound a full 24 years, half his life, and his paranoid wife obssesses about his dying.Ok, so she’s a nut. but do you have to go along with her nuttiness? Any information she collects now will likely be irrelevant when needed. The best advice you should have given her is to loosen up and enjoy life with her man, rather than live this crazy terrified life. Think about it.