Dear Judy,
My mother remarried after my father divorced her. They live in her house –his is rented out, thus generating income for his grown children.
Now they are both pretty sick. He has Alzheimer’s. I have to pick up medications for both, drive both to different doctors, help cook meals for both.
His daughters do nothing.
Help!
Andrea
Dear Andrea,
I think you have to realize that by helping the man your mother married, you are also helping your mother. That you are relieving her, during those trips to the drug store and doctors visits, of some obligations she can probably no longer fulfill.
Now about those adult daughters: tell them to get to work. Tell them — don’t ask them — what days their father and your mother need help. Tell them to sort it out among themselves.
And then wait and see what happens. My bet is they’ll pitch in when you put things that way.
Thanks for writing
Judy
