http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-brother-better-off-dead/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 11:50:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-brother-better-off-dead/comment-page-1/#comment-5278 Michael Wed, 29 Apr 2009 18:03:39 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=596#comment-5278 We are not all poets, or Emily Post. When a person speaks about someting which is so complex it often comes out wrong. Your site Judy, helps those of us reading it to both do better, and understand better the actons of others. Keep it up. We are not all poets, or Emily Post. When a person speaks about someting which is so complex it often comes out wrong. Your site Judy, helps those of us reading it to both do better, and understand better the actons of others. Keep it up.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-brother-better-off-dead/comment-page-1/#comment-5244 Edie Wed, 29 Apr 2009 10:08:26 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=596#comment-5244 Katie, I suggest you try to look at the feelings behind the words and understand that people are trying their best to be sympathetic. If they don't succeed, its not for lack of trying. Let it go, and be grateful that people care for you and care about your loss. Katie, I suggest you try to look at the feelings behind the words and understand that people are trying their best to be sympathetic. If they don’t succeed, its not for lack of trying. Let it go, and be grateful that people care for you and care about your loss.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-brother-better-off-dead/comment-page-1/#comment-5239 NICKI Wed, 29 Apr 2009 09:30:48 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=596#comment-5239 I discovered, from long experience, that saying "THANK YOU" is the best, and most final, response to the rude or meddlesome. You look polite (even if you despise the speaker) -- and there's no way they can continue the discussion. I discovered, from long experience, that saying “THANK YOU” is the best, and most final, response to the rude or meddlesome. You look polite (even if you despise the speaker) — and there’s no way they can continue the discussion.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-brother-better-off-dead/comment-page-1/#comment-5238 Nadya Wed, 29 Apr 2009 09:28:27 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=596#comment-5238 It's all this pseudo speak which you discussed in one of your blogs, Judy: people trying to be clever and skirting what they really mean. A simple "I am sorry" is no longer considered enough, so people try hard to be sophisticated and as a result manage to be idiotic and clumsyt. It’s all this pseudo speak which you discussed in one of your blogs, Judy: people trying to be clever and skirting what they really mean. A simple “I am sorry” is no longer considered enough, so people try hard to be sophisticated and as a result manage to be idiotic and clumsyt.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-brother-better-off-dead/comment-page-1/#comment-5237 Amanda Wed, 29 Apr 2009 09:25:54 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=596#comment-5237 Katie should be honest with herself. Her brother is better off dead and his death IS a blessing. She's just ashamed to admit it, even to herself. That's why she reacts so strongly to the truth from other people. Katie should be honest with herself. Her brother is better off dead and his death IS a blessing. She’s just ashamed to admit it, even to herself. That’s why she reacts so strongly to the truth from other people.

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