Dear Judy,
My sister died last year of ovarian cancer. Practically a year to the day her husband, whom I’ve always liked and thought the world of, married a new wife.
I did some mental calculations and figured out they must have been “dating” while my sister was sick with cancer. Because there have been references from both of them to certain dates when they knew each other, and a film they saw together which came out only at the very end of my sister’s life. Also to a restaurant they went to which closed about a week after my sister died. That was the night they supposedly fell “in love.”
I am so appalled I don’t know what to do. To even think that my brother-in-law was falling in love and carrying on with a woman while my sister, his wife of 12 years, was suffering with death staring her in the face.
I have two nieces I love. One looks exactly like my sister did when she was 9. I don’t want to stop seeing them. On the other hand, how can I continue seeing my brother-in-law and his new wife, knowing what I know?
Penny
Dear Penny,
Actually, from the way I look at it, you don’t know anything for sure. The movie they saw may have been a CD they viewed well after it first came out. The restaurant? Well maybe they went there a few days after your sister’s death, and couldn’t help falling in love.
I don’t know. You don’t know.
But one thing you do know, from what you wrote me. You love your nieces. You want to see them. They are the last legacies of your sister, aside from your memories.
If you want to see the little girls, drop the attitude. What other choice is there?
Thank you for writing
Judy
