Comments on: My Father-In-Law’s Lung Cancer is Ruining our Vacation Plans

By: Jocelyn

Jocelyn — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 12:39:09 +0000

Judy is 100% right. Imagine yourself in 30 years in your father in law’s shoes. How would you feel? If you go ahead with this holiday, you are telling your children that old and sick family memebers do not matter as long as our need for pleasure is gratified. Do not be surprised find yourself alone and neglected if that is how you educate your children. Luckily their mother has some values.

By: Paul

Paul — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 12:16:00 +0000

Cancelling because “maybe we might be needed”???? yeah, right…Sounds like she never wanted to go in the first place and is using the medical issue as an excuse. My sympathies for having such a manipulative wife!

By: Zoe

Zoe — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 12:10:42 +0000

My advice? Look for a vacation place near you, one that doesn’t demand a long absence, but is still fun for the kids. That way your wife will feel it’s ok to come along — and the kids won’t be disappointed. It’s a win-win situation — plus your chuldren learn the importance of compromise.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 12:04:02 +0000

I disagree completely. With the economy the way it is, memorable vacations to places like Disneyworld are going to be out of the question in the future. There are cell phones and special tickets from airlines if the wife or family need to cut short their time together, in a happy place.

Melanie

By: Melanie

Melanie — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 12:01:59 +0000

I disagree completely with you, Judy. With the economy the way it is, memorable vacations to places like Disneyworld are going to be totally out of the question in the future. Take advantage of today, the here and now. Enjoy your children while you can. In case of emergency, there are always cell phones and special airline fares (in the event of a death in the family) should the wife need to cut her vacation time short.

Melanie

By: Solly

Solly — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 11:26:51 +0000

What do the children think? If they are old enough to know about death and dying, they also know about loyalty and responsibility. Try having an adult conversation with them about this. You would be surprised at their insights.

By: Lori

Lori — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 11:24:46 +0000

Why doesn’t your wife stay home, and you go off to be with the kids? That way she feels she did the right thing — and your kids will have a vacation. By the way, the kids might also learn something from her decision to do the right thing about responsibility (by which I mean the responsibility children have towards their aging parents).