http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-friend-with-a-bad-case-of-leukemia-and-denial/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 11:57:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-friend-with-a-bad-case-of-leukemia-and-denial/comment-page-1/#comment-14658 Heath Bridges Tue, 25 Aug 2009 04:57:42 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=920#comment-14658 I actually admire the woman for living in fiction. It must be so hard to live with the reality of death. The ability of some people to put themselves in a fictional situation really impresses me. Let her live her fantasy and hope one day if you're put in the same place, you can too. I actually admire the woman for living in fiction. It must be so hard to live with the reality of death. The ability of some people to put themselves in a fictional situation really impresses me. Let her live her fantasy and hope one day if you’re put in the same place, you can too.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-friend-with-a-bad-case-of-leukemia-and-denial/comment-page-1/#comment-14618 Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN Mon, 24 Aug 2009 19:39:15 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=920#comment-14618 Denial serves a purpose and allows the person to process the information. They may choose to continue on the river of denial, it is their choice. I think if you take away denial, then what will you replace that coping mechanism with? Anger perhaps, or maybe depression? Simply remind them you are are there for them no matter what and "love them up." Denial serves a purpose and allows the person to process the information. They may choose to continue on the river of denial, it is their choice. I think if you take away denial, then what will you replace that coping mechanism with? Anger perhaps, or maybe depression? Simply remind them you are are there for them no matter what and “love them up.”

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-friend-with-a-bad-case-of-leukemia-and-denial/comment-page-1/#comment-14581 Chloe Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:34:23 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=920#comment-14581 Something is missing. How does Eva know what the doctor told her friend? If she reported it, what makes Eva think she's ignoring or denying impending death? Also, is there family? Seems to me like the woman is putting on a brave front for her friends -- but dealing with the issues elsewhere. Something is missing. How does Eva know what the doctor told her friend? If she reported it, what makes Eva think she’s ignoring or denying impending death? Also, is there family? Seems to me like the woman is putting on a brave front for her friends — but dealing with the issues elsewhere.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-friend-with-a-bad-case-of-leukemia-and-denial/comment-page-1/#comment-14580 Johanna Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:28:16 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=920#comment-14580 Spot on, Judy. Unless the sick woman is a complete fool, she knows exactly what's going on, and if she has chosen to cope this way - so be it. No one has to tell her what she knows already, which is that she is dying. Spot on, Judy. Unless the sick woman is a complete fool, she knows exactly what’s going on, and if she has chosen to cope this way - so be it. No one has to tell her what she knows already, which is that she is dying.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-friend-with-a-bad-case-of-leukemia-and-denial/comment-page-1/#comment-14579 Mary Linn Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:26:06 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=920#comment-14579 Does the friend have outstanding responsibilities, such as debts? Has anyone been given her power of attorney? Has she written a living will? If the answer to any one of these - and others along those lines - is negative, her good friends should do everything to ensure that her affairs are in order. And Judy, unless you know her situation, you should not give advice! Does the friend have outstanding responsibilities, such as debts? Has anyone been given her power of attorney? Has she written a living will? If the answer to any one of these - and others along those lines - is negative, her good friends should do everything to ensure that her affairs are in order. And Judy, unless you know her situation, you should not give advice!

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