http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-mother-wants-it-to-end-now/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 12:08:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-mother-wants-it-to-end-now/comment-page-1/#comment-14954 Linean Sat, 29 Aug 2009 05:10:19 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/my-mother-wants-it-to-end-now/#comment-14954 I am so sorry for Felicia and the pain she and her mother are suffering. I think her story illustrates why it is so important to explictly discuss what you want to happen if you are in a situation where you may want to end your life but are physically unable to do so. When I cared for my dying father I had that difficult conversation with him. He told me when he thought he would no longer want to live and under what circumstances. He told me he wanted me to help him end his life if he asked. I had to be sure I understood exactly what he wanted and what he meant. After we had that conversation we both felt like a terrible weight had been lifted. He said he felt less scared and safe with the promise from me that I would help him die. In the end, he chose to go the hospice route - and before he died he told me that knowing I would actively help him die on his own terms was a gift of love. I am so sorry for Felicia and the pain she and her mother are suffering. I think her story illustrates why it is so important to explictly discuss what you want to happen if you are in a situation where you may want to end your life but are physically unable to do so. When I cared for my dying father I had that difficult conversation with him. He told me when he thought he would no longer want to live and under what circumstances. He told me he wanted me to help him end his life if he asked. I had to be sure I understood exactly what he wanted and what he meant. After we had that conversation we both felt like a terrible weight had been lifted. He said he felt less scared and safe with the promise from me that I would help him die. In the end, he chose to go the hospice route - and before he died he told me that knowing I would actively help him die on his own terms was a gift of love.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/my-mother-wants-it-to-end-now/comment-page-1/#comment-307 katrina Thu, 11 Dec 2008 10:58:53 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/my-mother-wants-it-to-end-now/#comment-307 what a horrible dilemma. she helps her mother end her life and risks prison and the ruinof her end life, in effect ending it too. she does nothing and feels she betrayed the person who gave her life. anything she does will weigh on her until her own last day. what a horrible dilemma. she helps her mother end her life and risks prison and the ruinof her end life, in effect ending it too. she does nothing and feels she betrayed the person who gave her life. anything she does will weigh on her until her own last day.

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