http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/no-living-will-no-idea-what-to-do/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Fri, 18 May 2012 12:16:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/no-living-will-no-idea-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-14587 Judy Mon, 24 Aug 2009 16:27:29 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=885#comment-14587 Jeanne's idea -- a MY LIFE box that's fireproof -- is brilliant. As important, as Jeanne points out, is informing adult relatives and/or friends where that box is located. And yes, don't count on leaving your end-of-life instructions at an attorney's office (or at least don't leave those instructions EXCLUSIVELY at attorney's office). Leave a copy in your wallet or on the fridge or with your adult kids. Lawyers, like other people, die/go out of business/ or close up on Sundays and holidays. Jeanne’s idea — a MY LIFE box that’s fireproof — is brilliant. As important, as Jeanne points out, is informing adult relatives and/or friends where that box is located.
And yes, don’t count on leaving your end-of-life instructions at an attorney’s office (or at least don’t leave those instructions EXCLUSIVELY at attorney’s office). Leave a copy in your wallet or on the fridge or with your adult kids. Lawyers, like other people, die/go out of business/ or close up on Sundays and holidays.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/no-living-will-no-idea-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-14585 Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN Mon, 24 Aug 2009 16:18:39 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=885#comment-14585 Judy, I hate to see people struggle with this issue, but I see it all the time....Folks, talk to your families, or at the very least make things easy for them. I have a "My Life" box in my closet. Both my boys know it is there (not in a lawyers office that may or may not be open for business). There is a note in my wallet that directs anyone to the box. "My Life" box is fireproof, and has everything you would want to know about what I want....including where to donate my shoe collection. ( I have a charity chosen for shoes and clothes). I see this as a gift for my boys. Hopefully they will not need it for a very long time. Judy, I hate to see people struggle with this issue, but I see it all the time….Folks, talk to your families, or at the very least make things easy for them. I have a “My Life” box in my closet. Both my boys know it is there (not in a lawyers office that may or may not be open for business). There is a note in my wallet that directs anyone to the box. “My Life” box is fireproof, and has everything you would want to know about what I want….including where to donate my shoe collection. ( I have a charity chosen for shoes and clothes). I see this as a gift for my boys. Hopefully they will not need it for a very long time.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/no-living-will-no-idea-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-14570 John C Mon, 24 Aug 2009 12:17:52 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=885#comment-14570 If Ellen's Mother is in a hospice, or she has someone who is caring fo her whom she relies on, it would be a good idea to consult with the caretaker or hospice social worker Whatever her state of mind, it will be something that needs to be raised diplomatically and in a non-threatening manner. If an outsider opens the issue, the emotional pain will be greater. If Ellen’s Mother is in a hospice, or she has someone who is caring fo her whom she relies on, it would be a good idea to consult with the caretaker or hospice social worker Whatever her state of mind, it will be something that needs to be raised diplomatically and in a non-threatening manner. If an outsider opens the issue, the emotional pain will be greater.

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