Dear Judy,
A good friend’s husband died last year: brain tumor that turned out to be malignant. We all helped during the bad times: bringing her food, comfort - even driving her to church when she didn’t feel up to it.
She’s an RN and likes the work, so eventually she got back to a daily routine, and things calmed down.
Trouble is: Now she wants us all to celebrate the first anniversary of her husband’s death — and we’re all supposed to chip in with food, wine, and money to rent a public space.
Personally I don’t want to. But a lot of our friends are doing just as she suggests, giving money to rent a place to have a party in her late husband’s honor.
Do I have to?
Becky
Dear Becky,
No.
Let me amend that:
Absolutely not. Do whatever you want. And don’t do whatever you don’t want to do.
Thanks for writing
Judy
