Dear Judy,
My stepfather is 81 with congestive heart failure and other issues. He complains constantly to my mother and sister that I never visit him.
Actually, I do visit from time to time, but I think he forgets. Either that or he’s malicious. He always was, and I don’t expect him to change now.
The problem is my mother and sister believe him and they think I’m heartless. What do I do? How do I convince them?
Tess
Dear Tess
I don’t know why 2 family members don’t believe you. I think there’s a back story there I’m not privy to. But I do know you don’t like your stepfather — for whatever reason.
In other words, there are some problems that cannot be solved, especially if part of the issue is left unsaid.
So continue on, visiting – or not visiting. And ignore the rest, if you can
Thanks for writing
Judy
