Comments on: Why Do My Friends Think I’m Callous? http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/why-do-my-friends-think-im-callous/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Tue, 22 May 2012 07:20:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Michael http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/why-do-my-friends-think-im-callous/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Michael Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:39:26 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/why-do-my-friends-think-im-callous/#comment-63 Why do you think some people feel compelled to offer unsolicited advice on how to behave in such situations? Is it them or us, e.g. do we somehow indirectly signal we want their suggestions, or, do we choose their friends who are apt to give such advice? Is it different for men and women? I wouldn't want advice on this, and my firends wouldn't offer advice unless I asked for it. looking forward to your views. Michael Why do you think some people feel compelled to offer unsolicited advice on how to behave in such situations? Is it them or us, e.g. do we somehow indirectly signal we want their suggestions, or, do we choose their friends who are apt to give such advice? Is it different for men and women? I wouldn’t want advice on this, and my firends wouldn’t offer advice unless I asked for it.

looking forward to your views.

Michael

]]> By: Tammy http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/why-do-my-friends-think-im-callous/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Tammy Tue, 16 Sep 2008 10:37:03 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/why-do-my-friends-think-im-callous/#comment-62 If you have another reason to be on the opposite Coast, let him know that you are there. See how your brother responds. Maybe he is just being thoughtful, and wants to save you the trouble of coming out all that way. Maybe there are other issues he just isn't ready right now -- for obvious reasons -- to explore. But in either event, I think Judy is right. In your place, I wouldn't push it. This isn't the moment. If you have another reason to be on the opposite Coast, let him know that you are there. See how your brother responds. Maybe he is just being thoughtful, and wants to save you the trouble of coming out all that way. Maybe there are other issues he just isn’t ready right now — for obvious reasons — to explore. But in either event, I think Judy is right. In your place, I wouldn’t push it. This isn’t the moment.

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