http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/why-is-my-mother-in-law-is-getting-spooky/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Tue, 22 May 2012 07:20:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/why-is-my-mother-in-law-is-getting-spooky/comment-page-1/#comment-145 Reena O. Wed, 22 Oct 2008 23:07:46 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/why-is-my-mother-in-law-is-getting-spooky/#comment-145 Next time your MIL makes these comments, smile sweetly and say how everyone is unique and builds their personality and skills with the genes they inherited, and that you certainly look forward to seeing how this particular blend of DNA turns out. After a few times, she'll get the message. Next time your MIL makes these comments, smile sweetly and say how everyone is unique and builds their personality and skills with the genes they inherited, and that you certainly look forward to seeing how this particular blend of DNA turns out. After a few times, she’ll get the message.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/why-is-my-mother-in-law-is-getting-spooky/comment-page-1/#comment-144 Theda Mon, 20 Oct 2008 13:40:37 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/why-is-my-mother-in-law-is-getting-spooky/#comment-144 Get off it Judy; If the mother-in-law notes the resemblence to the deceased and the kids one solitary time -- that's fine. But stupid comments are out of line. You usually give such good advice. I am definitely surprised and disappointed by the drivel you offer here. Theda Get off it Judy; If the mother-in-law notes the resemblence to the deceased and the kids one solitary time — that’s fine. But stupid comments are out of line.
You usually give such good advice. I am definitely surprised and disappointed by the drivel you offer here.
Theda

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/advice/why-is-my-mother-in-law-is-getting-spooky/comment-page-1/#comment-143 edith Mon, 15 Sep 2008 10:47:09 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/advice/why-is-my-mother-in-law-is-getting-spooky/#comment-143 If it bothers you and you think it bothers the children, you should certainly find ways to react and make your feelings clear without offending the old lady. For example, if she mentions Uncle Mike's eyes you can respond by saying it is remarkable how genes create similarities and yet everyone is unique and special. Under no circumstances force a child who does not want to to learn piano, certainly not to remeber his grandfather. Rather, say that he has such talented grandparents, including the grandmother, and we wait to see which of the inherited talents is most worth pursuing. If you allow this to continue without setting polite limits you will resent her and it will show. If it bothers you and you think it bothers the children, you should certainly find ways to react and make your feelings clear without offending the old lady. For example, if she mentions Uncle Mike’s eyes you can respond by saying it is remarkable how genes create similarities and yet everyone is unique and special. Under no circumstances force a child who does not want to to learn piano, certainly not to remeber his grandfather. Rather, say that he has such talented grandparents, including the grandmother, and we wait to see which of the inherited talents is most worth pursuing. If you allow this to continue without setting polite limits you will resent her and it will show.

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