Dear Judy,
Our stepfather, as I guess you’d call him, has Alzheimer’s (our mother is dead). He has one daughter by his first marriage, and she is Ms Take-Charge. You know the type. She can do everything. She boasts about it all the time.
Now she is saying that I, the step-daughter and no relation to her at [...]
Dear Judy,
My twin brother died a month ago. He had prostate cancer, and naturally I’m scared now about myself, even though we were not identicals. I am also devasted.
My wife of 4 years (2nd marriage for both) seems somewhat sympathetic, but not overly so. My buddies are like, okay so get on with your life.
No one [...]
Dear Judy,
I saw your advice yesterday to the sister who didn’t want to visit a sibling with breast cancer because she, herself, feared illness and hospitals.
I am a nurse and I disagree with you totally: You told her to go visit, anway, and that is idiotic. People who are mortally afraid of illness can only [...]
Dear Judy,
All my life — I am now 30 — I have hated hospitals, sickness, the smell of sickness even.
I have an older sister who has breast cancer, and it isn’t looking good. I live in LA, she lives in a suburb of Detroit, and my whole family (6 of us..) is supposed to go [...]
Dear Judy,
I have a very good friend who is dying and she may go at any time.
Instead of mourning, I want to celebrate her life.
How do I organize a departure party for her?
Lou
Dear Lou,
I am sorry about your friend. My problem is that although I know your friend is dying, what I don’t know is [...]
Dear Judy,
My father is 86 and in failing health. He pops off incessantly to me about the past. Basically he just makes me feel like a failure.
There are three girls and one boy in our family. And all he talks about is my brother. After all — and this is true — my brother is [...]
Dear Judy,
My neighbor is a hospice volunteer, as you used to be, I think. We are friends. We pop over to each other’s house from time to time for coffee. My 11-year-old daughter is friends with her daughter. And her older daughter, 16, sometimes babysits.
My problem is my neighbor’s mouth. She tells me everything about [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother has had cancer for 10 years. She has endured a number of operations, chemo and radiation — only to have her cancer recur each time. She is strong and brave, though.
In September she underwent an operation to remove the pleurisy in her lungs. But she knows the cancer is taking its toll. [...]
Dear Judy,
2 years ago I discovered my husband was cheating on me. We had been married for 12 years so we went to counseling and he promised it wouldn’t happen again.
But I found out recently he kept seeing the other woman for the last 2 years. I was preparing to file for divorce, when he [...]
Dear Judy,
I have had to mastectomies. But the cancer seems to be spreading anyway, even with chemo. I have no hair, and I often feel weak and sick.
My problem is my son who is 9. I have tried talking to him repeatedly about my disease, but he doesn’t want to listen, or even understand. (His [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009