Comments on: Do It Now! Even If You’re Young & Healthy http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/do-it-now-even-if-youre-young-healthy/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Tue, 22 May 2012 07:31:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Judy http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/do-it-now-even-if-youre-young-healthy/comment-page-1/#comment-5951 Judy Thu, 07 May 2009 16:12:35 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=629#comment-5951 Dear Kenneth, I said that you must tell the people (or person) you designate as guardian for your children that he or she has been selected. That at least lets you know if they relish the honor, or would prefer to decline. I don't think it's wise to inform those relatives or friends who weren't selected as guardians that they are basically rejected!! Say nothing at all. In other words, the one great thing about death is you don't have to face the consequences of your decisions. Ever. Dear Kenneth,
I said that you must tell the people (or person) you designate as guardian for your children that he or she has been selected. That at least lets you know if they relish the honor, or would prefer to decline.

I don’t think it’s wise to inform those relatives or friends who weren’t selected as guardians that they are basically rejected!! Say nothing at all.

In other words, the one great thing about death is you don’t have to face the consequences of your decisions. Ever.

]]> By: George http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/do-it-now-even-if-youre-young-healthy/comment-page-1/#comment-5935 George Thu, 07 May 2009 11:58:32 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=629#comment-5935 Your advice is so iright and important. A close relative of mine who had 6 children -- and the father had just bugged off -- did none of what you recommend and the situation is a disaster. The money wasn't the biggest problem (there was some money), but the kids were split up. One relative agreed to take just 1 kid, and that one has already run away! There seems to be no end of problems ahead. Your readers need to do esxactly what you suggest. Your advice is so iright and important. A close relative of mine who had 6 children — and the father had just bugged off — did none of what you recommend and the situation is a disaster. The money wasn’t the biggest problem (there was some money), but the kids were split up. One relative agreed to take just 1 kid, and that one has already run away! There seems to be no end of problems ahead.
Your readers need to do esxactly what you suggest.

]]> By: Sentiment http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/do-it-now-even-if-youre-young-healthy/comment-page-1/#comment-5929 Sentiment Thu, 07 May 2009 09:45:16 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=629#comment-5929 ahhh Judy this issue drives me crazy - I have maybe 15 friends with kids and none of them have their will! They presume that it’ll all be ok - years of nagging from me doesn’t seem to work, even telling them of the horror stories of what can happen to your kids if you don’t sort it out now.. I have given them numinous phone numbers for inexpensive will writers and solicitors – I’ve emailed them details, sent text messages with details and even written it on my blog... and STILL they do nothing! The day my daughter was born I could not settle until I had chosen someone to look after her if something tragic happened – it was hard to choose, it was not our family it wasn’t even our best friend – it was an old family friend who’s our age, with the same interests and same look on life... we chose her because we knew her and her partner would be fair and understanding to our daughter and love her like their own – now we don’t worry - i just worry for everyone else ahhh Judy this issue drives me crazy - I have maybe 15 friends with kids and none of them have their will! They presume that it’ll all be ok - years of nagging from me doesn’t seem to work, even telling them of the horror stories of what can happen to your kids if you don’t sort it out now.. I have given them numinous phone numbers for inexpensive will writers and solicitors – I’ve emailed them details, sent text messages with details and even written it on my blog… and STILL they do nothing!
The day my daughter was born I could not settle until I had chosen someone to look after her if something tragic happened – it was hard to choose, it was not our family it wasn’t even our best friend – it was an old family friend who’s our age, with the same interests and same look on life… we chose her because we knew her and her partner would be fair and understanding to our daughter and love her like their own – now we don’t worry - i just worry for everyone else

]]> By: Kenneth http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/do-it-now-even-if-youre-young-healthy/comment-page-1/#comment-5921 Kenneth Thu, 07 May 2009 07:35:48 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=629#comment-5921 Great advice and perfect timing!. My wife and I were just discussing the other day what will happen to our children if we die young-ish, and are leaning toward asking a special longtime friend. But we have family pressures. I am worried how our siblings will react when they learn that we entrusted our children to someone who isn't family. They might be insulted (perhaps never talk to us again!). So there we will be, with a very nice guardian selected for the kids, in case of our premature deaths -- but also a family feud while we're still alive. I hope you have suggestions on how to handle that. Great advice and perfect timing!. My wife and I were just discussing the other day what will happen to our children if we die young-ish, and are leaning toward asking a special longtime friend. But we have family pressures. I am worried how our siblings will react when they learn that we entrusted our children to someone who isn’t family. They might be insulted (perhaps never talk to us again!). So there we will be, with a very nice guardian selected for the kids, in case of our premature deaths — but also a family feud while we’re still alive. I hope you have suggestions on how to handle that.

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