http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Sun, 12 Feb 2012 08:09:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/comment-page-1/#comment-222 Dean Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:54:57 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/#comment-222 Absolutely spot on. A lot of misery would be saved if we considered our actions irrevocable. Absolutely spot on. A lot of misery would be saved if we considered our actions irrevocable.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/comment-page-1/#comment-221 Beatrice Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:53:50 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/#comment-221 get real, judy, no one is going to treat people - family, friends or colleagues - as though they are going to die tomorrow. Would I fire my useless administrative assistant if I knew she was going to die tomorrow? Would I tell a kid he better shape up in school or no car forever if I knew some horrible tragedy would strike? Would I yell at my mother about her attitude (negative) toward my current significant other if i knew she was about to return to her Maker? Life is about getting along with stuff, not about visualizing the gream reaper wherever we look. My view is: you prescribe a formula for paralysis. get real, judy, no one is going to treat people - family, friends or colleagues - as though they are going to die tomorrow. Would I fire my useless administrative assistant if I knew she was going to die tomorrow? Would I tell a kid he better shape up in school or no car forever if I knew some horrible tragedy would strike? Would I yell at my mother about her attitude (negative) toward my current significant other if i knew she was about to return to her Maker? Life is about getting along with stuff, not about visualizing the gream reaper wherever we look. My view is: you prescribe a formula for paralysis.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/comment-page-1/#comment-220 Claudia Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:46:42 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/#comment-220 Judy, I just love, love, love this idea your reader who told you to write about it. I never thoguht about that angle before. Thanks for your analysis, and thinking about it now. I would like to add a point. There is a lot of guilt associated with the death of close people. But rarely with more distant ones. Now why is that?? It's probably a reflection of the grief level and also of the inexplicability of death. When a loved one dies, there is no simple explanation so we resort to guilt. Judy, I just love, love, love this idea your reader who told you to write about it. I never thoguht about that angle before. Thanks for your analysis, and thinking about it now. I would like to add a point. There is a lot of guilt associated with the death of close people. But rarely with more distant ones. Now why is that?? It’s probably a reflection of the grief level and also of the inexplicability of death. When a loved one dies, there is no simple explanation so we resort to guilt.

]]> http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/comment-page-1/#comment-219 Amelia Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:39:49 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/wordpress/blog/guilt-the-other-terminal-illness/#comment-219 Maybe guilt is the entire realtionship in such situations, with a huge focus on the negative. So when you feel guilty, actively think of the positive. Maybe guilt is the entire realtionship in such situations, with a huge focus on the negative. So when you feel guilty, actively think of the positive.

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