Comments on: Last Wishes On the Fridge http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/last-wishes-on-the-fridge/ Advice for Dying and Death - When Sympathy Isnt Enough Sun, 12 Feb 2012 06:32:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Josh Slocum http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/last-wishes-on-the-fridge/comment-page-1/#comment-13638 Josh Slocum Fri, 07 Aug 2009 00:40:38 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=666#comment-13638 Oh Vivian, if the children in your life are so spooked by the idea of death, it might be because a certain auntie is so darned afraid of it herself she scares the bejabbers out of the kids instead of explaining it calmly to them. They're not Faberge eggs, Viv. They won't break if you're candid with them. In fact, they'll have a lot fewer hangups about an important time - what frightens us is the unknown. Your idea to distribute these documents is excellent advice, advice I give out, too. Whether you put a copy of your plans in the fridge or not is your business. But really, have a relaxing cup of tea - you're unnecessarily worked up over this. Oh Vivian, if the children in your life are so spooked by the idea of death, it might be because a certain auntie is so darned afraid of it herself she scares the bejabbers out of the kids instead of explaining it calmly to them. They’re not Faberge eggs, Viv. They won’t break if you’re candid with them. In fact, they’ll have a lot fewer hangups about an important time - what frightens us is the unknown.

Your idea to distribute these documents is excellent advice, advice I give out, too. Whether you put a copy of your plans in the fridge or not is your business. But really, have a relaxing cup of tea - you’re unnecessarily worked up over this.

]]> By: Judy http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/last-wishes-on-the-fridge/comment-page-1/#comment-8833 Judy Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:13:10 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=666#comment-8833 I think everyone should follow Jeanne's example.Whether your instructions are inside the freezer or elsewhere isn't relevant. Leave your instructions where they're easily accessible. -- and tell your relatives and friends where to find them I think everyone should follow Jeanne’s example.Whether your instructions are inside the freezer or elsewhere isn’t relevant.
Leave your instructions where they’re easily accessible. — and tell your relatives and friends where to find them

]]> By: Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/last-wishes-on-the-fridge/comment-page-1/#comment-8818 Jeanne Frye, RN, CHPN Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:51:17 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=666#comment-8818 I think it depends on the situation. In hospice we often put resusitation info on the fridge. It is a common place for anyone to look who may be in the home. As the death is expected, we do not want to call 911 or initiate CPR if that is not what the patient / family wanted. Of course if the patient or family want CPR, or 911 called, we do that. The freezer idea may work well in some situations. Personally, I have instructed my sons where to look in my home. I think it depends on the situation. In hospice we often put resusitation info on the fridge. It is a common place for anyone to look who may be in the home. As the death is expected, we do not want to call 911 or initiate CPR if that is not what the patient / family wanted. Of course if the patient or family want CPR, or 911 called, we do that. The freezer idea may work well in some situations. Personally, I have instructed my sons where to look in my home.

]]> By: Davey http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/last-wishes-on-the-fridge/comment-page-1/#comment-8816 Davey Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:47:35 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=666#comment-8816 Vivian is ridiculous and mean. The idea may not suit everyone but for many, its perfect. You don't like it? Don't use it, but why put Judy and Josh down? Vivian is ridiculous and mean. The idea may not suit everyone but for many, its perfect. You don’t like it? Don’t use it, but why put Judy and Josh down?

]]> By: Vivian http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/last-wishes-on-the-fridge/comment-page-1/#comment-8793 Vivian Thu, 04 Jun 2009 09:58:33 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=666#comment-8793 I am totally amazed by Mr Slocum's silly idea -- and even more so, that you publicize it. Where do I begin? Small children are spooked by thoughts of death. Every child or grandchild who goes to the fridge to get a soda has a message flashing at him: hey! this person is preparing to die! The cleaning lady who might not read English, might remove the note from the fridge. Or, if she does read English, she could take a peek at what is in the freezer. As might any random guest. In which case that will and its contents won't be much of a surprise, when read. In which case you may as well leave copies with your heirs. If you don't want them to know what's in it, just give your heirs a list of say 3 people (lawyer, priest, colleague) who might have a a copy. Am I right or am I right? I am totally amazed by Mr Slocum’s silly idea — and even more so, that you publicize it. Where do I begin? Small children are spooked by thoughts of death. Every child or grandchild who goes to the fridge to get a soda has a message flashing at him: hey! this person is preparing to die! The cleaning lady who might not read English, might remove the note from the fridge. Or, if she does read English, she could take a peek at what is in the freezer. As might any random guest. In which case that will and its contents won’t be much of a surprise, when read. In which case you may as well leave copies with your heirs. If you don’t want them to know what’s in it, just give your heirs a list of say 3 people (lawyer, priest, colleague) who might have a a copy. Am I right or am I right?

]]> By: Davey http://www.thecheckoutline.org/blog/last-wishes-on-the-fridge/comment-page-1/#comment-8792 Davey Thu, 04 Jun 2009 09:50:28 +0000 http://www.thecheckoutline.org/?p=666#comment-8792 Sometimes simple is also brilliant. Thanks Judy and thank you Josh. Sometimes simple is also brilliant. Thanks Judy and thank you Josh.

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