• Advice

    Posted on December 22nd, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    The Know-It-Alls and Me

    Dear Judy,
    I read your online column pretty regularly, and you’ve never dealt with this issue before. Maybe I’m the only one being plagued this way. I just don’t know.
    My boyfriend of four years died of leukemia. I was his caregiver at the end. I can’t help it that he died, but you wouldn’t know it [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on September 29th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    Alzheimer’s Amazons: Do-Gooders Drive Us Nuts

    Dear Judy,
    We have the opposite problem of everyone else who seems to be writing you. My mother has Alzheimer’s as well as other forms of dementia, and it’s pretty advanced. She is still living with us, although I don’t know for how long. It’s bad; she has maybe 2 years left before the curtain drops.
    The [...]

  • Blog

    Posted on June 11th, 2008

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    What to tell Relatives While You’re Still Healthy Enough to Tell It

    Many years ago — I think I was around 25 and, if we disregard my idiotic Marlboro pack-a-day smoking habit, very healthy — my mother shocked me with a single question:
         “How do you want to be buried?”
         I remember looking at her, slack-jawed. In the first place, I thought this hardly the question for [...]