Dear Judy,
I am 34 and my fiance is 66. I know that’s a big age gap, but we are in love, this will be my first marriage (his 3rd), and we are planning a September wedding.
The problem is, family and friends. Maybe you’ve heard this before: They tell me my fiance could “die at any time” because [...]
Dear Judy,
Our stepfather, as I guess you’d call him, has Alzheimer’s (our mother is dead). He has one daughter by his first marriage, and she is Ms Take-Charge. You know the type. She can do everything. She boasts about it all the time.
Now she is saying that I, the step-daughter and no relation to her at [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother remarried after my father divorced her. They live in her house –his is rented out, thus generating income for his grown children.
Now they are both pretty sick. He has Alzheimer’s. I have to pick up medications for both, drive both to different doctors, help cook meals for both.
His daughters do nothing.
Help!
Andrea
Dear Andrea,
I [...]
Dear Judy,
Our mother has Alzheimer’s and it’s pretty advanced. My older brother, who is 37 and never has done a day’s work in his life and never has spent much time with the rest of us, suddenly discovered in the last months how much he loves our mother and needs to be around her.
He even [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m having a hard time dealing with my father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s, no longer in the beginning stage. His health habits are disgusting, you can smell him a mile off. And he’s often irrationally angry at me.
Now my husband wants him to come with with us?
What do I do?
MaryAnn
Dear Mary Ann,
I know I’m going [...]
Dear Judy,
My Dad has Alzheimer’s — he’s made a lot of bathroom “mistakes” — missing the toilet when he has to urinate, and not using his pee jub.
Any advice?
Lowell
Dear Lowell,
At a certain point, a lot of the elder with the problem you describe use what’s delicately known in the business as “continence products” — ie [...]
Dear Judy,
My father has Alzheimer’s: it’s getting worse and worse. He lives in New Jersey. I live in Arizona — and I’m his only living child.
I have to work for a living — I have a wife, 3 kids under the age of 17, and a completely insecure job that I’m afraid of leaving for [...]
Dear Judy
This is indelicate. But so is my problem. My mother-in-law has Alzheimer’s, and it has resulted on her visits to our home in stains on the living room couch. I don’t know what to do.
She has a caretaker. I have told her and told her that my mother-in-law needs Depends or some other protection, [...]
Dear Judy,
I live on the Coast, and I have an incredibly demanding job. (I’m a lawyer in a large firm). My sister lives just 10 minutes from our mother who has Alzheimer’s, pretty advanced. Sometimes she remembers who my sister is, sometimes not. Me — never.
I can come to Florida exactly twice a year. My [...]
Dear Judy,
My father, who was a prominant attorney in Georgia, has recently been diagnosed with moderate-stage Alzheimer’s Disease. I know because I’m his adult daughter. He is just 72. It’s heartbreaking.
My question: Do I tell him he has Alzheimer’s? Or do I keep quiet? My mother and sister say we owe him the truth. But [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009