Dear Judy,
Our mother has Alzheimer’s. Right now it’s in the “moderate” stage, meaning not too good, obviously, but not the end of the line either. I live a mile away from our mother. I work downtown in a large law firm.
My brothers. though, live much farther away. There are three of us, and all of us [...]
Here’s a question for all you readers who might have aging parents (or aunts or grandparents): Do you reveal the nature of the illness to a relative with Alzheimer’s?
I am sure there are plenty of people who read this who have no idea what to do in such a situation. Tell someone you love he [...]
Dear Judy,
I haven’t seen you tackle this much. Maybe you’re scared and think you’ll be arrested and charged with aiding or abetting. My mother, when she was healthy and younger, always told me that if she did contract some terrible illness, she didn’t want it to go on and on. She wanted it to end, [...]
Dear Judy,
Our mother has Alzheimer’s. When I say “Our” I’m the only one in the family who uses that word. Because my brother thinks he’s an only child. Or acts like he is.
He’s a doctor, and a good one — a urologist. Which means in one way he can help: he has a lot of [...]
Dear Judy,
We have the opposite problem of everyone else who seems to be writing you. My mother has Alzheimer’s as well as other forms of dementia, and it’s pretty advanced. She is still living with us, although I don’t know for how long. It’s bad; she has maybe 2 years left before the curtain drops.
The [...]
Dear Judy,
My 48-year-old sister has colon cancer which has spread everywhere; the doctors say she has maybe nine to ten months left. She is also in pain, which we are trying to get the doctors to deal with.
The issue is our mother, who suffering from dementia: small strokes in the brain mixed with what is [...]
Dear Judy,
I just learned that my mother has terminal cancer. My best friend has been told her mother has Alzheimer’s, past the mild stage. Her memory is shot.
Neither knows about her own diagnosis –yet. But I fully intend to tell my mother about her cancer, so she can make plans and decide whether or not [...]
Dear Judy,
In a nasty twist of face both my mother and my mother-in-law are afflicted with Alzheimers. My husband seems to feel that despite some of the unpleasant (very unpleasant!) outward symptoms of the illness, both kids, who are 19 and 25, should visit them regularly. He says these visits from their grandsons might give the [...]
Dear Judy,
At the risk of sounding completely selfish, I can’t stand it any more. Everyone around me seems to be dying, and I just don’t want to deal with it (or them) any more.
In case you think I’m exaggerating or just crazy, it’s pretty much literally true: my mother-in-law who has Alzheimers has just months to [...]
Dear Judy,
Alzheimers has taken so much of my mother’s mind that she can’t even recognize her own grown children, me included. Needless to say, we are all devastated. Yesterday her doctor told my younger sister and me that within very short order our mother won’t even be able to swallow. The doctor wanted to know if we, her children, [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009