Dear Judy,
My father is 86 and in failing health. He pops off incessantly to me about the past. Basically he just makes me feel like a failure.
There are three girls and one boy in our family. And all he talks about is my brother. After all — and this is true — my brother is [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister died last year of ovarian cancer. Practically a year to the day her husband, whom I’ve always liked and thought the world of, married a new wife.
I did some mental calculations and figured out they must have been “dating” while my sister was sick with cancer. Because there have been references from [...]
Dear Judy,
I am 31. My mother died 4 years ago at age 60, and it came as a surprise even though she’d had health problems including breast cancer. We thought that was over. It wasn’t.
A year ago, just 3 years after my mother’s death, my father remarried, and I am really upset. Not because he [...]
Dear Judy,
I am 17. My father just died a month ago: he had heart disease, diabetes and it all just got worse.
My problem is not only that my father died, but that my mother can’t stop bad-mouthing him even now that he’s dead. How can I tell her to stop? They weren’t living together when [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister and I haven’t spoken in years. We never got along, but when we were in our 20’s she did something so awful I can’t bring myself to mention it or I’ll be in tears. It had to do with my sexuality is all I’ll say.
Anyway, she’s just been diagnosed with breast cancer [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m writing because someone I loved very much died on 9/11. It wasn’t a husband or anyone I can openly acknowledge because he was married.
Nonetheless, there are plenty of people who knew about us and what we meant to each other. For years I’ve belong to a book club, and a number of its members [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother learned she had cancer a year ago; it is of unknown origin but it has spread to her liver. The oncologist said she had just months to live. That was 8 months ago.
She is still alive. We called the nearest hospice and the personnel who help her out are really good.
Our problem [...]
Dear Judy,
Please tell me what to do. My longtime live-in has pancreatic cancer, and he’s basically not speaking to me any more.
Why? Because of his round-the-clock visitors! They come. They stay for hours. Sometimes they bring food to eat — and end up eating it themselves (he has no appetite any more). They talk all [...]
Dear Judy,
My mom is suffering from advanced ovarian cancer and it appears that the chemo is not working.
She is a very independent person and a nurse by profession and she has completely taken charge of her own care. Over the past few months as the chemo has taken its toll, she has become increasingly withdrawn [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009