• Advice

    Posted on November 12th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    Will He Die Tomorrow?

    Dear Judy,
    My brother-in-law is at home under hospice care. He has prostate cancer which metastasized to the bone. For the past year he’s been in severe pain all over his body.
    However — in the last week he’s had no pain at all!  No meds have been added or changed. He is very weak and tired [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on May 8th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    Do I Tell My Kids?

    Dear Judy,
    I have two kids, 8 and 10 — and a mother who’s dying pretty rapidly of bone cancer (it was originally breast cancer but it spread).
    I am going through great pain and grief and am trying hard not to show it. My mother has maybe two months left, we don’t know. She lives pretty [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on December 29th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    First Cousin Blues

    Dear Judy,
    I don’t mean to be mean. My first cousin is a lovely woman, in her early 30’s. She was married to a much older man, who loved her for the very things the rest of us in the family can’t stand:  her dependency (which he aided and abetted), her childlike ways, her general neediness.
    Well he [...]