Dear Judy,
My best friend is dying (breast cancer). I happen to know she still cares for an old boyfriend. When they broke up, he married someone else. Now he’s divorced.
My question: Should I tell him about the situation? Should I get them together now? My friend is pretty sick and obviously doesn’t look great, but [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m not sure if I’m terminally ill or not. I am 37, single, and my breast cancer — yes the same cancer they told me was out of my life forever — has recurred, as I discovered last week.
The usual treatment advised: mastectomy, radiation, chemo. After 6 years of being supposedly cancer-free this is a [...]
Dear Judy,
I don’t know if you receive a lot of questions like this or not, and in some ways I feel stupid for even asking.
My best friend has breast cancer – we don’t know yet if it has spread a lot. But I know it’s bad, because she’s already making plans for The End: doing her will, [...]
Dear Judy,
Four years ago, I discovered I had breast cancer. Not a good thing, and it gets worse: it metastasized. My live-in of the era decamped (couldn’t stand the sight of me being sick, he said), and the next thing I knew he was living with someone new.
Long story short: it’s pretty obvious he felt [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister who is just 29 has breast cancer, and her oncologist is recommending not just chemo, but also that her healthy breast be removed. He says the type of cancer she has is very aggressive, and she will likely die of breast cancer if she doesn’t do as he says. (He says in [...]
Dear Judy,
I know you receive a lot of emails from terminally sick people asking when they should reveal the truth to relatives or friends. I have a special case.
My ex-husband and I have been very friendly for the last 4 years. (It wasn’t always that way — he left me for another lawyer in his [...]
Dear Judy,
I have two kids, 8 and 10 — and a mother who’s dying pretty rapidly of bone cancer (it was originally breast cancer but it spread).
I am going through great pain and grief and am trying hard not to show it. My mother has maybe two months left, we don’t know. She lives pretty [...]
Dear Judy,
My very good friend lives pretty close by, so when she lost her live-in lover (a woman) to breast cancer, after a long struggle, I was glad to help out. My good friend has 2 kids, and I’d take them to and from school, sometimes to soccer games and also sometimes let them do their [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister, who died 2 years ago of breast cancer, had a wonderful husband. Thoughtful, intelligent, and really good about sharing duties around the house. Everyone liked him — I have to put that in the past tense not because he too is dead, but because he’s remarrying in a month.
I could tell you [...]
Dear Judy,
My wife died last year — a long illness (recurrent breast cancer). I realize that these days it’s a big deal when a young (ish) guy like me (43) is a widower, and supposedly we make the best husbands etc. etc. and a great catch for single women. But I am really getting angry.
Practically every [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009