• Advice

    Posted on August 20th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    My Wife and Me: Burial Dilemma

    Dear Judy,
    My wife converted to Judaism long ago and is observant. I happen to be born Jewish and am not at all religious. Basically, I feel when you die, that’s it. (My wife feels the same about that part). I want to be cremated.
    The trouble is — my wife feels that since cremation is traditionally frowned upon [...]

  • Blog

    Posted on July 9th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    Who Gets to Choose Where to Be Buried?

     
    No, this will not be a blog about Michael Jackson, or how he died. Or whose fault it was.  And it’s also not about whether Jackson should be buried, for old time’s sake, on the very spot where he seduced small boys.
    I leave it to Randy Cohen, the ethicist of the New York Times, to worry [...]

  • Blog

    Posted on June 4th, 2009

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    Last Wishes On the Fridge

    How do you make certain your last wishes about how — and where– you want your funeral and burial to be conducted are implemented? How to make sure no one spends a fortune (or at least not more than you’ve planned) for the ceremony? And that everyone you love knows where you’ve stashed the cash [...]

  • Blog

    Posted on July 24th, 2008

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    5 States You Shouldn’t Be Caught Dead In

      Dear readers: today we’re in luck. Josh Slocum, executive director of the Funeral Consumers Alliance  (a great watchdog organization that makes sure your life savings don’t expire when you do) has a few thoughts about where in America you shouldn’t die.
    Dying is hard enough, and funerals aren’t much fun either. Most of us put off funerals too late, leaving [...]

  • Blog

    Posted on June 11th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    What to tell Relatives While You’re Still Healthy Enough to Tell It

    Many years ago — I think I was around 25 and, if we disregard my idiotic Marlboro pack-a-day smoking habit, very healthy — my mother shocked me with a single question:
         “How do you want to be buried?”
         I remember looking at her, slack-jawed. In the first place, I thought this hardly the question for [...]