Dear Judy,
My mother keeps tell us she’s going to leave everything “to the church.” We don’t belong to a church. My mother never spent an hour in church in her life. My sister and I were never taken there as children.
Mom’s in her seventies now, and I guess she’s scared — of something. Maybe God. [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m a personal assistant to a pretty powerful person in New York. His wife drove all of us crazy, not just me. She was the jealous type, I guess with reason, but since I wasn’t the one who was fooling around with her husband, it got old pretty quick.
She died last week, and we’re [...]
Dear Judy,
4 years ago my husband died in a car crash, head-on. We have 2 children, and at the time of my husband’s death they were 5 and 2.
My in-laws have been terrific. Very supportive, kind, and generous, and I really appreciated that, and still do. They still babysit whenever I have class (I am [...]
Dear Judy,
I am 17. My father just died a month ago: he had heart disease, diabetes and it all just got worse.
My problem is not only that my father died, but that my mother can’t stop bad-mouthing him even now that he’s dead. How can I tell her to stop? They weren’t living together when [...]
Dear Judy,
I bet you never had this question before. When I was four my father vanished. I was told he was dead by everyone. My mother, my aunts, even my older sister (she is really my half-sister, and she’s 12 years older than me).
So now I’m 17, and come to find out my father is [...]
Dear Judy,
I don’t want to sound greedy, but our grandmother promised me her condo in Phoenix, because she knew it was just what I needed (I have asthma pretty bad).
I am 40 years old, my mother is dead, and I never married. I have a very low income.
Our grandmother died 4 weeks ago (at 81). In [...]
Dear Judy,
Our principal just died. He was awful. He used to pick on some of the kids for absolutely no reason. They got detention just because he didn’t like them.
There are kids in our high school who everybody knows do lots of drugs and don’t even bother to hide what they’re doing and he never even punished them [...]
Dear Judy,
I don’t know if this is up your alley: my housekeeper’s husband died pretty suddenly. That was 6 months ago, and sometimes she shows up, and sometimes she doesn’t. This never happened before. She was always on time and efficient.
I don’t know what’s going on in her private life. But I do know, with [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother, who could be very frank and open even with strangers, died two months ago. I loved her a lot. But I recognize that not everybody did.
The problem is what people say. I get a number of condolence notes, and also some phone calls and comments from friends. But more people than you [...]
Dear Judy,
I’ll bet you read the long article in Sunday’s New York Times about “Drug-Induced Sleep” — which in my view is just a nice phrase for “Hastening Death Through Oblivion.”
What do you think? I’m a nurse (although not a hospice nurse) and personally, I am positive that a lot of those end-of-life drugs like morphine actually [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009