• Advice

    Posted on July 10th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    She Doesn’t Want to Know

    Dear Judy,
    My handsome, brilliant 46-year-old brother is dying. He knows it. We all know it. Even my sister-in-law, who isn’t the sharpest knife in the drawer, knows it. The problem is, she won’t admit it to herself, and she won’t do any of the things she needs to do right now to prepare herself for the [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on June 11th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    How Do I Fight Denial?

    Question: Dear Judy,
    I have a cousin who has pancreatic cancer which has now spread to the liver. Everyone in the family knows that he is dying except him. He is determined to fight this literally to the end, which is driving the rest of us crazy.
     I wonder, when one finds a helpful site, such as [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on June 2nd, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    Do We Tell Our Father He’s Dying?

    Dear Judy,
    My father’s condition is terminal — he is 73, with Stage 4 lung cancer — but he continues to talk as if he were going to get better. Should the family tell him what the reality is?
    My siblings and I disagree about what our responsibilities are, and my mother never has dealt openly with anyone in [...]