Dear Judy,
My mother keeps tell us she’s going to leave everything “to the church.” We don’t belong to a church. My mother never spent an hour in church in her life. My sister and I were never taken there as children.
Mom’s in her seventies now, and I guess she’s scared — of something. Maybe God. [...]
Dear Judy,
I saw your advice yesterday to the sister who didn’t want to visit a sibling with breast cancer because she, herself, feared illness and hospitals.
I am a nurse and I disagree with you totally: You told her to go visit, anway, and that is idiotic. People who are mortally afraid of illness can only [...]
Dear Judy,
All my life — I am now 30 — I have hated hospitals, sickness, the smell of sickness even.
I have an older sister who has breast cancer, and it isn’t looking good. I live in LA, she lives in a suburb of Detroit, and my whole family (6 of us..) is supposed to go [...]
Dear Judy,
Maybe this is just me, but I can’t really believe so many people are thinking and asking questions about dying or death. At least it seems that way from the number of people who write you each week, and then the others who comment on whatever advice you give.
Personally, I don’t want to think about [...]
Dear Judy,
My companion for the last 5 years was recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. The pain isn’t that bad — yet. He knows the disease is fatal, so he’s under no illusions about anything.
The problem is: he expects company night and day. Not just me. Friends. Brothers (he has 4); his elderly mother who pretty [...]
Dear Judy,
I think you’re doing for dying what Dr. Ruth did for sex! Allowing an open discourse, and breaking down barriers.
So speaking of death and sex: Despite being weak and occasionally weirded out by recent experience, I still want it. I just had a recent recurrence of breast cancer which, once again, seems to be [...]
Dear Judy,
I hope I don’t sound hard-hearted, because I’m really not, but my daughter, now in the fourth grade, is being traumatized. At least every other week in school she sees a classmate who is pale, bald, and so skinny that it frightens all the other kids. Sometimes the boy’s skin breaks out in a terrible [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009