Dear Judy,
My father’s best friend is dying of bladder cancer. He was always rude. I remember when I came home from school (at 14!!), he told my father, in front of me, that I would never be beautiful or even good-looking so I “better learn a skill in order to earn a good living.”
Well I’m [...]
Dear Judy,
I can understand having friends detach or become scarce when you’re dealing with a dying loved one. However, in the months after the (prolonged and heartbreaking) death of one of my parents, I had somebody who I thought was a closefriend take offense at something I said and tell me off as an awful [...]
Dear Judy,
You’re going to think I’m selfish, but I’m not. When the lover of my close friend was dying, I did everything for her. Took her to the hairdresser, straightened out her drawers, accompanied her to the hospital.
I didn’t expect much in return, and I certainly didn’t get it. My mother is now dying of [...]
Dear Judy,
A close friend lost her live-in lover to a sudden heart attack (he was 41!). I’ve been a really good friend: calling, dropping by with groceries and DVDs, buying her little bottles of cologne or boxes of chocolate from time to time.
The thing is, this has been going on for at least 7 months. I [...]
Dear Judy,
I need advice and so I’m turning to you. I have a friend who’s dealing with terminal prostate cancer whom I’ve known for 10 years. He’s been updating me on his treatment which seemed manageable until he sent me an e-mail 2 months ago saying it had spread everywhere.
I’m meeting him for dinner in [...]
Dear Judy,
I just learned a really good friend who lives in Baltimore has melanoma. She is just 41; we’ve known each other since freshman year of high school, and we keep in regular touch because we’re both single, and happily so.
Actually though, it was her ex-husband who contacted me at my email address about my good [...]
Dear Judy,
No one I’ve ever known has had this problem. I have a good friend who has an especially bad form of leukemia. She is only 32 and it’s awful to see the toll the disease is taking.
Yet she refuses to acknowledge anything. She acts like she’s going to improve! We all know this isn’t [...]
Dear Judy,
My close friend has ovarian cancer: her husband, who has never been very good at looking after himself, is now totally at sea. So a lot of us, her good friends, pitch in — and he never leaves her room unless one of us is present and accounted for. It’s nutty.
Personally, I [...]
Dear Judy,
I don’t know if you receive a lot of questions like this or not, and in some ways I feel stupid for even asking.
My best friend has breast cancer – we don’t know yet if it has spread a lot. But I know it’s bad, because she’s already making plans for The End: doing her will, [...]
Dear Judy,
My best friend has melanoma, and it looks like the cancer has spread. She lives more than 150 miles away from me, but I am ready to help and to travel – any time. And to be with her.
I text her. I email her. I phone. She has asked me not to phone. She says [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009