• Advice

    Posted on October 27th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    Bad Advice: Bad Prognosis

    Dear Judy
    I thought your advice to Ellie who wrote in yesterday saying her 19-year-old son, the result of an old clandestine sexual affair, was possibly in danger of dying — was awful.
    No other way to put it.
    First you told the mother to keep the secret a secret. Everyone knows secrets are toxic. Next you told her [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on October 26th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    Guilt or Illness: Which is Worse?

    Dear Judy,
    I have what’s probably an unsolvable problem. Some 20 years ago I had an affair — my husband never knew about it, I don’t think. My youngest son, now 19, is the result of that affair: one way I know this is we just discovered he has diabetes . I happen to know the [...]