Dear Judy,
My father, who has lung cancer, is getting regular phone calls from his mistress. My father lives with his wife, my mother. I always knew in a way that something was going on in my father’s life, but never wanted to know (or ask) details.
Now it’s in our face. The woman calls at least [...]
Dear Judy,
I am newly married and have a 15-year-old stepdaughter. Her biological father is dying of lung and colon cancer.
I want to comfort both my stepdaughter and my wife. My stepdaughter feels her father no longer cares about her, and about a year ago told her Mom, “I wish he would die.” Then 2 weeks [...]
Dear Judy,
My good friend Beth is dying of lung cancer. She is under hospice care, and she still occasionally smokes.
My question. I’m a smoker (half a pack a day, nothing serious…), and every time I visit, I’m longing to light up.
I know, I know. Big bad me. But seeing her the way she is now, [...]
Dear Judy,
I don’t know what to do, which is why I’m writing. One of my good friends from way back has lung cancer, recently diagnosed. He hasn’t smoked in 10 years.
The thing is, he smoked a lot before. Like 3 packs a day, and so I guess even now that he’s stopped, it didn’t make much [...]
Dear Judy,
8 years ago I lost both my mother and my beloved brother simultaneously in a car crash, my mother who had bad vision at the wheel.
At the time I got a lot of sympathy, especially from a close friend. Now her live-in lover died (lung cancer) and she keeps saying stuff like, “I realize [...]
Dear Judy,
We just found out my mother has aggressive terminal lung cancer and with chemo might last 12-14 months.
My mother was physically and verbally abusive to me when I was growing up. Now at 41, I work to have a functional relationship with her that is not too close (too avoid getting hurt again) but not [...]
Dear Judy
My father, who has lung cancer, has told me that he’s left pretty much everything to me in his will. I’m an old child, now 30. But he’s also asked me to give some of the cash I inherit to my first cousin, his sister’s son, who never has held down a real job, [...]
Dear Judy,
I read thecheckoutline.org pretty often now that my father has lung cancer. I couldn’t believe the question on Friday from the woman who was pissed off that people in her office wanted to share their own stories of grief with her. She felt she had too much to handle with her own mother dying, and [...]
Dear Judy,
I am a five year lung cancer survivor looking for a way to help lung cancer victims get over the stigma of the “they-did-it-to-themselves” attitude from the general public. Nobody should judge anyone’s lifestyle and it seems that everyone does something in their life that they shouldn’t.
So how can I convey to people who suggest [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m told you deal with crazy people and crazy problems all the time, so maybe you can deal with this. It’s my husband’s father.
He’s living with us temporarily (he’s a widow; my mother-in-law died last year of lung cancer), and I guess he’s lonely. So every night at the dinner table he talks-talks-talks.
It’s not [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009