Dear Judy,
My ex has lung cancer. She smoked 3 packs a day, so big surprise…She never remarried (I did). We have no kids.
Practically every day someone, her mother, her girlfriends who always drove me nuts anyway, her cousin, calls me up and “suggests” I do something for her. Like maybe visit. Or call her up. [...]
Dear Judy,
Our 24-year-old daughter often drops by the apartment of a family friend with lung cancer. He is in his late 50’s, his wife works and isn’t usually home til around 6 pm, and our daughter is just nice that way.
She reads to this friend, talks to him, calls the pharmacy for refills, things like that. [...]
Dear Judy,
I live in Brussels most of the year, and I also travel a lot on business (mostly to Hong Kong and Singapore). For the last four months, my brother has been on my case. I’m about to come back to the US for four weeks, as I do each year, and he wants me to spend [...]
Dear Judy,
Our mother is 80 and a little addled. Our sister, Nina, just died. Frankly, she had lung cancer, and everyone knew it but our mother. We just never had the heart to tell her, and judging from her recent behavior, maybe she isn’t “all there,” so we were right. I think.
Every once in a [...]
Dear Judy
Our father, who is slowly fading (lung cancer, Stage IV) has left written instructions for his tombstone. For everything, in fact. But it’s the tombstone details that really made me drop my jaw.
Everything he spelled out for the slab of granite in his future is a total lie: “Loving Husband” and “Loving Father” are just the start. [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother has Stage IV lung cancer which has metastasized to the brain. Whenever I visit, she seems to be delirious. Although sometimes she begs me to alter my habits, and then she doesn’t seem all that crazy.
The trouble is what she makes me promise is driving me crazy. She wants me to promise [...]
Hi Judy,
I have a 13-year-old daughter with my ex. The ex walked out on me when I was pregnant, never looked back. He drifted in and out of our lives several times in the early years, but nothing stable. He would promise our son the world, and then drop off the face of the earth [...]
Dear Judy,
A longtime friend is has Stage III lung cancer — and evidently lots of guilt about what she did to my romantic life some years ago. It wasn’t the worst thing anyone’s done to me. She started dating the love of my life, but only after he’d already dumped me.
In fact about 2 months after he dumped [...]
Dear Judy,
In the last 18 months, my mother-in-law has lost her husband, an older brother, and a son who was killed in a car crash. I can’t say that the deaths of the first two — my father-in-law and my husband’s uncle — were total tragedies. They were pretty old and both had been sick for [...]
Dear Judy,
I know when you read this, you’re going to think I’m a selfish bastard. I’ve read a lot of your responses to a number of emails to thecheckoutline.org, and that seems to be your opinion of men in general. Anyway, my wife said I should write you, so that’s what I’m doing.
My wife’s father has [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009