• Advice

    Posted on January 21st, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    Death and New Love — Which One Triumphs?

    Dear Judy,
    I know from reading thecheckoutline that you usually respond to people who are dying or their friends and spouses. Although my problem is different, maybe you can help with this one.
    My wife of 5 years is already dead. She had Bright’s Disease — everyone, including her and her mother, knew she was going to [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on November 7th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    How Am I Supposed to Replace a Dead Woman?

    Dear Judy,
    I know this question isn’t totally up your alley, but maybe you’ll answer it anyway. Last year I married a widower (his wife died of stomach cancer two years ago), and we get along very well. He has three grown children with whom I have cordial relations — actually more than cordial. We spend some [...]

  • Advice

    Posted on June 18th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    Do I Have to Name My Baby After the Deceased?

    Dear Judy,
    I’m in real trouble. Some months ago, my husband’s sister died — I’m personally convinced she killed herself, but my mother-in-law keeps insisting it was “a gun accident.” I liked her in a way, but my sister-in-law was a disturbed woman. She couldn’t hold down a job for long, she maxed her credit cards [...]