Dear Judy,
I don’t understand something and maybe you can help. I have ovarian cancer, Stage IV (it got discovered very late), and a best friend who, while not really the picture of health, at least isn’t dying. She has some stomach issues and some arthritis, that’s it.
Every time I tell her about how scared I [...]
Dear Judy,
My brother’s wife died of ovarian cancer 5 days ago. Their son is 3 1/2 years old. My brother’s mother-in-law has advised my brother not to tell the kid about the loss.
What do you think? What should I tell my brother about this? When is the right age to tell a child his mother [...]
Dear Judy,
My friend of 5 years, with whom I was living until November, died of ovarian cancer. We were deeply in love, and when she died, I really didn’t feel there was much left for me in life.
I don’t want to be melodramatic, but I still feel that way. Until I met her, I’d never [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister died last year of ovarian cancer. Practically a year to the day her husband, whom I’ve always liked and thought the world of, married a new wife.
I did some mental calculations and figured out they must have been “dating” while my sister was sick with cancer. Because there have been references from [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother has Stage IV ovarian cancer. Things are bad, I can’t bring myself to be more specific right now or I’ll break down.
She keeps planning trips for the two of us (my father divorced her 8 years ago) for “next summer” or even later when she gets “better” –it’s crazy.
How do I break it [...]
Dear Judy,
I see from your previous advice on thecheckoutline.org that you’re a big fan of living wills. But what do you do if a parent doesn’t have one and is dying?
Our mother has ovarian cancer, and it’s metastasized into bone cancer. So she’s in some pain (even with pain medication). From time to time I [...]
Dear Judy,
My close friend has ovarian cancer: her husband, who has never been very good at looking after himself, is now totally at sea. So a lot of us, her good friends, pitch in — and he never leaves her room unless one of us is present and accounted for. It’s nutty.
Personally, I [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m not God, but I suspect my daughter, who is just 39, is terminally ill. Her ovarian cancer — cured we thought 2 years ago — has apparently spread. She has also had a double mastectomy. Nothing has worked. She is taking heavy pain medication.
She and my son-in-law have 2 children, 9 and 11. I [...]
Dear Judy,
What do I do about a husband who acts like his late wife is still alive. I didn’t know the women. I’m sure she was great. But She died 3 years ago of ovarian cancer. I married him 7 months ago.
He still talks about “my wife.” By which he means her. I’ve tried correcting [...]
Dear Judy,
My mom is suffering from advanced ovarian cancer and it appears that the chemo is not working.
She is a very independent person and a nurse by profession and she has completely taken charge of her own care. Over the past few months as the chemo has taken its toll, she has become increasingly withdrawn [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009