Dear Judy,
My sister died last year of ovarian cancer. Practically a year to the day her husband, whom I’ve always liked and thought the world of, married a new wife.
I did some mental calculations and figured out they must have been “dating” while my sister was sick with cancer. Because there have been references from [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother has Stage IV ovarian cancer. Things are bad, I can’t bring myself to be more specific right now or I’ll break down.
She keeps planning trips for the two of us (my father divorced her 8 years ago) for “next summer” or even later when she gets “better” –it’s crazy.
How do I break it [...]
Dear Judy,
I see from your previous advice on thecheckoutline.org that you’re a big fan of living wills. But what do you do if a parent doesn’t have one and is dying?
Our mother has ovarian cancer, and it’s metastasized into bone cancer. So she’s in some pain (even with pain medication). From time to time I [...]
Dear Judy,
My close friend has ovarian cancer: her husband, who has never been very good at looking after himself, is now totally at sea. So a lot of us, her good friends, pitch in — and he never leaves her room unless one of us is present and accounted for. It’s nutty.
Personally, I [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m not God, but I suspect my daughter, who is just 39, is terminally ill. Her ovarian cancer — cured we thought 2 years ago — has apparently spread. She has also had a double mastectomy. Nothing has worked. She is taking heavy pain medication.
She and my son-in-law have 2 children, 9 and 11. I [...]
Dear Judy,
What do I do about a husband who acts like his late wife is still alive. I didn’t know the women. I’m sure she was great. But She died 3 years ago of ovarian cancer. I married him 7 months ago.
He still talks about “my wife.” By which he means her. I’ve tried correcting [...]
Dear Judy,
My mom is suffering from advanced ovarian cancer and it appears that the chemo is not working.
She is a very independent person and a nurse by profession and she has completely taken charge of her own care. Over the past few months as the chemo has taken its toll, she has become increasingly withdrawn [...]
Dear Judy,
I notice you have a number of letters about ovarian cancer lately. They hit home. Our mother was recently diagnosed with the illness, in an advanced stage.
I know that there’s sometimes (often?) a genetic component to the disease. I have a sister who’s had breast cancer. I am 33 and I want my ovaries removed.
My [...]
Dear Judy,
I hope what I’m emailing doesn’t make me sound callous. My sister-in-law who is very devout and religious is in a very bad place: she has very advanced ovarian cancer, and is undergoing chemo, but with little hope of longterm survival.
Every time I visit her with my wife, she tells us, “Please pray for me!” [...]
Dear Judy,
My mother-in-law is in the last stage of ovarian cancer. She never wanted her son (her only son) to marry me, and made that clear during our courtship. But to give her her due: after the wedding she more or less came around and was at least civil to me.
Now that she’s dying, all [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009