Dear Judy,
Some years ago, maybe 3, my friend, her husband and I practically came to blows. (the issue, believe it or not, was abortion rights. They are anti. I am pro).
We stopped speaking completely. Now her husband has pancreatic cancer, and is not expected to live long.
I’ve sort of hinted around to mutual [...]
Dear Judy,
My father, who is a widower, is dying of cancer of the pancreas, and isn’t expected to last long. The problem is: me.
I’ve just been told I have to go to Hong Kong for at least 4 months. I don’t really want to go, but if I want to keep my job, I do. [...]
Dear Judy,
I lost my longtime live-in friend a year ago, almost exactly. He had pancreatic cancer and that was that.
In the beginning, friends would call all the time, asking me over to their place or dropping in for a visit. I felt loved, even though I had lost the person I loved most in the world.
Then [...]
Dear Judy,
Please tell me what to do. My longtime live-in has pancreatic cancer, and he’s basically not speaking to me any more.
Why? Because of his round-the-clock visitors! They come. They stay for hours. Sometimes they bring food to eat — and end up eating it themselves (he has no appetite any more). They talk all [...]
Dear Judy,
My companion for the last 5 years was recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. The pain isn’t that bad — yet. He knows the disease is fatal, so he’s under no illusions about anything.
The problem is: he expects company night and day. Not just me. Friends. Brothers (he has 4); his elderly mother who pretty [...]
Dear Judy,
I read your advice about a month ago to the woman who was going through a bad divorce when her husband died — and she didn’t feel like acting like a grieving widow because it was so hypocritical. I have a more difficult problem.
Four years ago, I too went through a nasty divorce from [...]
Dear Judy,
I have a good friend who lives in Ohio who is dying of pancreatic cancer. No pain, or not much, which I gather is pretty much what it’s like with the disease. But it’s also incurable, as I’m sure you know.
My problem is I live over a thousand miles away. I can’t travel back [...]
Dear Judy,
A close cousin has pancreatic cancer, but she’s in a state of total denial about what this means — ie. a fairly quick death. Also, she keeps talking about what she’s going to do when she gets well: a trip to Greece was mentioned, for instance. She’s also said she might want to get back with [...]
Dear Judy,
My friend is dying of pancreatic cancer. It has been 10 months since her diagnosis. In all likelihood I will be with her when she dies in palliative care at the hospital.
What will physically occur after she breathes her last breath? I truly want and need to prepare myself before.
Sarah
Dear Sarah,
We live in [...]
Question: Dear Judy,
I have a cousin who has pancreatic cancer which has now spread to the liver. Everyone in the family knows that he is dying except him. He is determined to fight this literally to the end, which is driving the rest of us crazy.
I wonder, when one finds a helpful site, such as [...]
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