Dear Judy,
Our mother died a year ago. Actually, she killed herself (drugs and alcohol…). My younger sister who is 18 found her body, and called the ambulance but it was too late. My sister was living at home. I am in grad school in New York.
My question is: what do I do about my sister? [...]
Dear Judy,
Our mother has Alzheimer’s and it’s pretty advanced. My older brother, who is 37 and never has done a day’s work in his life and never has spent much time with the rest of us, suddenly discovered in the last months how much he loves our mother and needs to be around her.
He even [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister believes in Heaven and Hell. I do not. She mainly believes our older brother who died at 38 will be going to Hell. I won’t go into all the reasons. There are too many. Mainly she didn’t like the fact that he was gay, and also a gambler.
Now that he’s dead that’s [...]
Dear Judy,
My sister and I haven’t spoken in years. We never got along, but when we were in our 20’s she did something so awful I can’t bring myself to mention it or I’ll be in tears. It had to do with my sexuality is all I’ll say.
Anyway, she’s just been diagnosed with breast cancer [...]
Dear Judy,
I live on the Coast, and I have an incredibly demanding job. (I’m a lawyer in a large firm). My sister lives just 10 minutes from our mother who has Alzheimer’s, pretty advanced. Sometimes she remembers who my sister is, sometimes not. Me — never.
I can come to Florida exactly twice a year. My [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m pretty sure you won’t be able to help out, but here goes: A very good friend in our group lost a brother during 9/11. It was tragic and we all stood by her during that awful time and well after.
The problem is now that the years have passed she’s become a terrorism expert. [...]
Dear Judy,
I have a moral question, not really a legal question. My brother is, and has always been, short of funds. He had an expensive education paid for by our late mother, and went to law school, and has done nothing with it. Sometimes he works, sometimes not.
He’s in my will as the main beneficiary [...]
Dear Judy,
Our mother has Alzheimer’s. When I say “Our” I’m the only one in the family who uses that word. Because my brother thinks he’s an only child. Or acts like he is.
He’s a doctor, and a good one — a urologist. Which means in one way he can help: he has a lot of [...]
Dear Judy,
I’m writing because I don’t know what to do. My younger sister has breast cancer. She is 36 years old and her type is a very aggressive kind.
I’m with her a lot, at chemo sessions, at her kid’s school (if my sister has to miss a parent-teacher meeting or something), everywhere. As a result, I [...]
Dear Judy,
I feel like a major tool writing this, but since I know you won’t use my name, here goes: My mother is dying of ovarian cancer, Stage IV. She is preparing her will, and has told me that when she dies, she’s leaving the bulk of her estate to my older brother who is 29, [...]
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Posted on January 24th, 2009