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    Posted on January 6th, 2009

    Written by Judy

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    What Do I Tell My Dying Nephew?

    Dear Judy,
    My 21-year-old nephew has terminal cancer. What do I say when I see him?
    Ken
    Dear Ken,
    I am so very sorry about your nephew.
    My rule of thumb, always, is to take cues from the person who is terminally sick. There are those who want to discuss what’s going on — and those who don’t. There are [...]

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    Posted on October 15th, 2008

    Written by Judy

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    Should I Get In Touch Now That He’s Dying of Cancer?

    Dear Judy,
    My son and his wife started their divorce process last year. He was very sad and called us every day to talk. His wife’s father and I made noises about continuing — despite the impending divorce — to get in touch socially. But I found myself ignoring his further attempts to contact me.
    The divorce [...]